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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 700430" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes. This is the key to the whole deal. But you are not a little girl anymore. This situation may recall a time when you were powerless and could not take care of yourself, but that was then and this is now. Now you can take proactive and powerful steps to help yourself, change your your situation and the way you think about it, and leave. </p><p></p><p>I agree with this:</p><p></p><p>It is really not about her. It is about you and how you respond to her, how you think about her and your situation and what you choose to do to get out of it.</p><p></p><p>The worst that she can do is fire you. If you document what is happening you will be able to influence the unemployment office to grant you unemployment. In the case of firing, the burden of proof is on the employer to prove that the firing was justified. It will be hard for them to do that if you begin now to document what is happening to you, which really, has been harassment for a long, long time. While being fired is hard, everybody who works has been fired. It is part of working life.</p><p></p><p>Most of the rest of what you feel and experience to my way of thinking, has to do with your history of abuse. This is a powerful moment in your life because you have the opportunity to face down your history and empower yourself.</p><p></p><p>Of course it is scary and overwhelming. I am currently in a situation where feelings are invoked from my own childhood. It is hard to know what to do but there is always a first step and then a second that we can take that can begin to clarify things for us that give us power.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 700430, member: 18958"] Yes. This is the key to the whole deal. But you are not a little girl anymore. This situation may recall a time when you were powerless and could not take care of yourself, but that was then and this is now. Now you can take proactive and powerful steps to help yourself, change your your situation and the way you think about it, and leave. I agree with this: It is really not about her. It is about you and how you respond to her, how you think about her and your situation and what you choose to do to get out of it. The worst that she can do is fire you. If you document what is happening you will be able to influence the unemployment office to grant you unemployment. In the case of firing, the burden of proof is on the employer to prove that the firing was justified. It will be hard for them to do that if you begin now to document what is happening to you, which really, has been harassment for a long, long time. While being fired is hard, everybody who works has been fired. It is part of working life. Most of the rest of what you feel and experience to my way of thinking, has to do with your history of abuse. This is a powerful moment in your life because you have the opportunity to face down your history and empower yourself. Of course it is scary and overwhelming. I am currently in a situation where feelings are invoked from my own childhood. It is hard to know what to do but there is always a first step and then a second that we can take that can begin to clarify things for us that give us power. [/QUOTE]
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