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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 63782" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I've only read this post of yours, so I apologize if you have spoken of this previously. Do you have grandparents rights set up or is that why you have an attorney now? In our state, grandparents have more rights to grandchildren after their childs rights have been taken away. I'm not exactly sure why this is, but I guess it comes down to access. If your child doesn't have access, but you have a relationship built with your grandkids, the state is more likely to grant you access. In our state, a relationship built is based on how much you see, speak and communicate with the kids within a years time. One thing that helps this case is sending cards for birthdays, holidays etc. If you want to go over the top on this, send them for every holiday that comes up, labor day, halloween, thanksgiving, christmas, new years, valentines day, easter, 4th of July and so on. One other tip I have heard is include a check made out to the mom with the kids names in the memo. When they cash this check, it shows they received your cards. You'll have proof through the bank. You can also send them certified letter return receipt. If you do this often, it shows you have or are trying to establish a relationship. The checks don't have to be big, but big enough that they're worth cashing. Like $20 or so. If you can establish your relationship, then you can fight for your rights as a grandparent. I would imagine writing a check out to the exGF is difficult, but if it means you can establish communication to your grandkids, I'd go for it.</p><p></p><p>I hope you get to see your grandkids soon and I hope the new boyfriend quickly learns you just want to spend time with the grandkids and stay out of the rest of the BS (pardon my french).</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately my husband's ex mother in law is an alcoholic and not good for my difficult children in any way shape or form. When we first married we had fully intended on having all of the family involved, but we soon realized it wasn't what was best for our difficult children. I wish we had a good relationship with the exfamily and that they were truly good for my kids. We could sure use more help around here at times and someone to give us a break somedays.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 63782, member: 3837"] I've only read this post of yours, so I apologize if you have spoken of this previously. Do you have grandparents rights set up or is that why you have an attorney now? In our state, grandparents have more rights to grandchildren after their childs rights have been taken away. I'm not exactly sure why this is, but I guess it comes down to access. If your child doesn't have access, but you have a relationship built with your grandkids, the state is more likely to grant you access. In our state, a relationship built is based on how much you see, speak and communicate with the kids within a years time. One thing that helps this case is sending cards for birthdays, holidays etc. If you want to go over the top on this, send them for every holiday that comes up, labor day, halloween, thanksgiving, christmas, new years, valentines day, easter, 4th of July and so on. One other tip I have heard is include a check made out to the mom with the kids names in the memo. When they cash this check, it shows they received your cards. You'll have proof through the bank. You can also send them certified letter return receipt. If you do this often, it shows you have or are trying to establish a relationship. The checks don't have to be big, but big enough that they're worth cashing. Like $20 or so. If you can establish your relationship, then you can fight for your rights as a grandparent. I would imagine writing a check out to the exGF is difficult, but if it means you can establish communication to your grandkids, I'd go for it. I hope you get to see your grandkids soon and I hope the new boyfriend quickly learns you just want to spend time with the grandkids and stay out of the rest of the BS (pardon my french). Unfortunately my husband's ex mother in law is an alcoholic and not good for my difficult children in any way shape or form. When we first married we had fully intended on having all of the family involved, but we soon realized it wasn't what was best for our difficult children. I wish we had a good relationship with the exfamily and that they were truly good for my kids. We could sure use more help around here at times and someone to give us a break somedays. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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