klmno
Active Member
OMG- this feels so good! I used to be the type that had to be accomplishing something all the time- even if it was just house-cleaning. I couldn't stand to waste time- I did count quality time with difficult child as "useful", not a waste. I was that way for about 20 years, LOL! But the past 6 mos I have not been- I'm sure it has been depression and all that goes along with it. difficult child looked at me one day when he was in psychiatric hospital right after being busted and he broke down in tears, looked completely panicked and said "Mom, you just gave up". That was true- but I know that I gave up because I felt he gave up. That doesn't make it right or healthy for him or me, but it's just how I felt. That everything I had done had been a waste and useless and there was no point in doing any more- nothing could make a difference.
Apparently, posting about my "OOT" (LOL!) and just getting others' honest opinions and thinking some about it, made me feel pretty good. I spent yesterday afternoon cutting grass and it must have made those chemicals in the brain kick in- you know, the ones that make you feel better. The weather is beautiful, difficult child can now call me sometimes, I can visit him each weekend (not that I necessarily will go every week for the next year, and I'm actually motivated to start on this list of stuff I need to do. Isn't is funny how the feeling good is just as self-perpetuating as feeling bad?
Anyway, I decided to not make any major decisions that I don't have to until I've been on this roll for a couple of weeks and gotten some things done and feel better- like I've gotten this period of depression behind me. The therapist was NOT making me feel better- sometimes they are just more of a detriment.
Thank you, Ladies- for offering support, advice, general opinions, and just being here. I hate to think how (if) I'd held up if you weren't here. I know I'll still have bad days/moments, but I feel like I've finally reached that turning point. It's not the first time I've been thru this- but it's the first in a VERY long time and it lasted a long time and I had a child involved. There was such a domino effect that left me in a VERY bad place.
Sheeeewwwww.....
Apparently, posting about my "OOT" (LOL!) and just getting others' honest opinions and thinking some about it, made me feel pretty good. I spent yesterday afternoon cutting grass and it must have made those chemicals in the brain kick in- you know, the ones that make you feel better. The weather is beautiful, difficult child can now call me sometimes, I can visit him each weekend (not that I necessarily will go every week for the next year, and I'm actually motivated to start on this list of stuff I need to do. Isn't is funny how the feeling good is just as self-perpetuating as feeling bad?
Anyway, I decided to not make any major decisions that I don't have to until I've been on this roll for a couple of weeks and gotten some things done and feel better- like I've gotten this period of depression behind me. The therapist was NOT making me feel better- sometimes they are just more of a detriment.
Thank you, Ladies- for offering support, advice, general opinions, and just being here. I hate to think how (if) I'd held up if you weren't here. I know I'll still have bad days/moments, but I feel like I've finally reached that turning point. It's not the first time I've been thru this- but it's the first in a VERY long time and it lasted a long time and I had a child involved. There was such a domino effect that left me in a VERY bad place.
Sheeeewwwww.....