member: 18958"]Hi PJW
I just want to say Hi and let you know that others will come around tomorrow morning. Traffic really drops off around this time, particularly on a weekend.
I wanted to ask you, for how long are you committed to keeping the child?
I fear it could be a minefield for you....
My first thought is this: you need to be upfront with your concerns. As you say, these behaviors are serious. You don't know what is going on with the child.
What if something happens while the child is in your care? What will be the response of your son and his fiancee towards you? More important, is the child.
Is it not better to confront the situation up front? The elephant is in the room. Everybody knows it is there.
Speak up. Protect yourself and this child. Start a conversation. Ask questions. Put the responsibility on the parent.
The only way I would consider caring for a child with those kinds of behaviors was if I was sure that the parent had sought expert intervention, and the child and parent were receiving treatment/intervention'/follow-up. If you are not comfortable with the situation after you have talked it over, I would ask the mother to make another arrangement for care.
If they get mad, oh well. It's better than the alternatives. That is my thinking.
Others will chime in as well. I will check in tomorrow after others have posted.
*You do not mention what would be foremost on my mind. My son. Might a conversation between you three be important to him (you have the perfect opportunity here, after all, you are a party to this care arrangement)?
After all, he may be taking on a responsibility that he may not fully understand.
To initiate a conversation might benefit everybody.
Take care.[/QUOTE]