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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 10492" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Being Devil's Advocate here - why isn't he going to Europe? Is it the cost? Or is it his fear of planes? Or is it his inability to manage independently?</p><p></p><p>Could you use this as a target for him to aim towards, in terms of independence skills?</p><p></p><p>Eighteen months ago we were on holiday in Tasmania. difficult child 1 had been given a 21st birthday gift from his friends of a ticket to go to the premiere in Sydney at Fox Studios, of the last Star Wars film. difficult child 1 is HUGE into Star Wars and desperately wanted to go. But to do so he had to fly home from Hobart to Sydney, arrange to meet someone and then get himself home to get ready before going to the premiere (he went in costume, complete with $300 light saber).</p><p></p><p>He was really nervous not only about flying, but about having to do it all on his own. But his determination was stronger than his fear (which is really saying something). He still SNAFU'd a bit, allowing himself to be persuaded by the airline to take a later flight (which caused great inconvenience to us as well as the person meeting him) but he did manage and had a wonderful, unforgettable time (although he broke his expensive light saber in a mock battle at the premiere - it ended up looking like a Ferengi neuronic whip. It needed Viagra). </p><p></p><p>Basically, if the motivation is there it can be useful in stimulating some move to increasing life skills. difficult child 1's girlfriend doesn't like driving, so difficult child 1 is learning to drive, so he can go places with her. Up til then, he was too terrified to give it a go. difficult child 1 also wants to plan on a life with her, but he knows he needs to get a job first. So now he's looking for a job that can be the beginning of a long-term career path.</p><p></p><p>Motivation can work wonders with Aspies.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 10492, member: 1991"] Being Devil's Advocate here - why isn't he going to Europe? Is it the cost? Or is it his fear of planes? Or is it his inability to manage independently? Could you use this as a target for him to aim towards, in terms of independence skills? Eighteen months ago we were on holiday in Tasmania. difficult child 1 had been given a 21st birthday gift from his friends of a ticket to go to the premiere in Sydney at Fox Studios, of the last Star Wars film. difficult child 1 is HUGE into Star Wars and desperately wanted to go. But to do so he had to fly home from Hobart to Sydney, arrange to meet someone and then get himself home to get ready before going to the premiere (he went in costume, complete with $300 light saber). He was really nervous not only about flying, but about having to do it all on his own. But his determination was stronger than his fear (which is really saying something). He still SNAFU'd a bit, allowing himself to be persuaded by the airline to take a later flight (which caused great inconvenience to us as well as the person meeting him) but he did manage and had a wonderful, unforgettable time (although he broke his expensive light saber in a mock battle at the premiere - it ended up looking like a Ferengi neuronic whip. It needed Viagra). Basically, if the motivation is there it can be useful in stimulating some move to increasing life skills. difficult child 1's girlfriend doesn't like driving, so difficult child 1 is learning to drive, so he can go places with her. Up til then, he was too terrified to give it a go. difficult child 1 also wants to plan on a life with her, but he knows he needs to get a job first. So now he's looking for a job that can be the beginning of a long-term career path. Motivation can work wonders with Aspies. Marg [/QUOTE]
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