I'm not asking anything of him to see him. I never have asked anything to see him. He uses so much mj he can't walk. His judgement is impaired. Imagine. Leaving a hundred dollars or more of mj sitting out in the yard in full view. Maybe there's so much water under the bridge we can't walk this back. He probably does feel judged by me. That he can't, won't meet my expectations. Like tired says, I've created a battle of wills. He may agree but he'll fight me just to be right And all that makes me feel defensive. How am I wrong to want that he wants something? I am better off away from him. And I add no value to his life either. Not anymore.