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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657235" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I wouldn't take her to court to get her to go to school if there are other options. Sorry, but going to school does not mean you will learn, especially if you are afraid.</p><p></p><p>Confused, I didn't WANT to go to prom or homecoming or give a fug about any of those festivities. I could have. I had a boyfriend (I always had some boyfriend...lol), but I didn't have any interest in the "rah-rah" I love my school routines that many parents dream about for their kids. My boys, who both stayed in school, didn't go to those things either. Not all kids even care.The only child I had who loved her school and activities was Jumper and Jumper was a school star for her athletic talent. The ONLY one. The others couldn't have cared less. Often I think these events excite the parents more than some of our kids. Sonic was pained when a girl asked him to homecoming. He felt he had to go because "she's my friend, but I really don't want to go." That was his only homecoming, although he did go to the party they had on prom night, which was usually bowling, which he likes. But he skipped the dancing. He did like his school, but he is not into large groups of people. That's not him.</p><p></p><p>When I refused to go to graduation, thinking about sitting in the hot sun (it was outdoors) with a late-in-the-alphabet last night, the hot son, almost 900 graduates who had to have a turn to cross the stage, and my phobia of fainting in full force, my father told me that if I didn't go I'd regret it for the rest of my life. But I never think about it. I was not going to go. I was too scared of those hours in the son and the fainting. And my grades weren't good..not like I was proud of my wonderful achievements there. Plus I was not interested in school activities so basically for me school was a place I hated t hat I went to because I had to...there were no alternatives. I often cut school and I learned almost nothing. I have no school memories other than hanging with my friends at lunch. My friends included three girls who were two years younger than me. I was very immature.</p><p></p><p>I don't think it does any good to threaten a child to go to school. You may be able to make her go for a while, but you can't make her learn. If she is afraid, she CAN'T learn. If she has learning challenges, learning in a group is very hard. Homeowrk is hard. I don't think I did any all through high school.</p><p></p><p>I would have loved homeschooling, not because I was lazy (I'm not), but because I didn't have to sit in somebody's classroom with twenty other kids listening to boring lectures and reading boring presentations of material. I'm wired differently and school is geared to "avearge"kids. My daughter who was homeschooled did so because we yanked her out of school trying to give her less access to her druggie friends. She is extremely bright and did very well, even doing drugs <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> She could have attended a four year school as her program was certified.</p><p></p><p>Now she has two careers when she goes back to work. And there was no police, DA, nothing involved in this. Actually I didn't know how intelligent she was until after she was out of school. Bet she is way up there in IQ. But she didn't like school and did not try, so she rode along with average grades.</p><p></p><p>Six hours a day at a desk is not for all people. Also, it can give us parents peace of mind about the truancy officers. Schools get crazy w hen our kids don't show up because they get money for the kids each time they are there before noon. That's their bottom line.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657235, member: 1550"] I wouldn't take her to court to get her to go to school if there are other options. Sorry, but going to school does not mean you will learn, especially if you are afraid. Confused, I didn't WANT to go to prom or homecoming or give a fug about any of those festivities. I could have. I had a boyfriend (I always had some boyfriend...lol), but I didn't have any interest in the "rah-rah" I love my school routines that many parents dream about for their kids. My boys, who both stayed in school, didn't go to those things either. Not all kids even care.The only child I had who loved her school and activities was Jumper and Jumper was a school star for her athletic talent. The ONLY one. The others couldn't have cared less. Often I think these events excite the parents more than some of our kids. Sonic was pained when a girl asked him to homecoming. He felt he had to go because "she's my friend, but I really don't want to go." That was his only homecoming, although he did go to the party they had on prom night, which was usually bowling, which he likes. But he skipped the dancing. He did like his school, but he is not into large groups of people. That's not him. When I refused to go to graduation, thinking about sitting in the hot sun (it was outdoors) with a late-in-the-alphabet last night, the hot son, almost 900 graduates who had to have a turn to cross the stage, and my phobia of fainting in full force, my father told me that if I didn't go I'd regret it for the rest of my life. But I never think about it. I was not going to go. I was too scared of those hours in the son and the fainting. And my grades weren't good..not like I was proud of my wonderful achievements there. Plus I was not interested in school activities so basically for me school was a place I hated t hat I went to because I had to...there were no alternatives. I often cut school and I learned almost nothing. I have no school memories other than hanging with my friends at lunch. My friends included three girls who were two years younger than me. I was very immature. I don't think it does any good to threaten a child to go to school. You may be able to make her go for a while, but you can't make her learn. If she is afraid, she CAN'T learn. If she has learning challenges, learning in a group is very hard. Homeowrk is hard. I don't think I did any all through high school. I would have loved homeschooling, not because I was lazy (I'm not), but because I didn't have to sit in somebody's classroom with twenty other kids listening to boring lectures and reading boring presentations of material. I'm wired differently and school is geared to "avearge"kids. My daughter who was homeschooled did so because we yanked her out of school trying to give her less access to her druggie friends. She is extremely bright and did very well, even doing drugs ;) She could have attended a four year school as her program was certified. Now she has two careers when she goes back to work. And there was no police, DA, nothing involved in this. Actually I didn't know how intelligent she was until after she was out of school. Bet she is way up there in IQ. But she didn't like school and did not try, so she rode along with average grades. Six hours a day at a desk is not for all people. Also, it can give us parents peace of mind about the truancy officers. Schools get crazy w hen our kids don't show up because they get money for the kids each time they are there before noon. That's their bottom line. [/QUOTE]
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