I have posted a few times but not with regularity. My son is 9. ADHD and a Mood Disorder. His medicines are listed below...he started both a week ago. But had been medicated since he was 4. He has been on a section 504 plan since 2nd grade. He has had MAJOR school issues since PreK. He refuses to do work. He hides under his desk. He loses control and rolls on the floor or even runs from the room if he feels threatened. Last week he bit a kid on the ankle (he was under the desk and she was "bothering him"). We had a meeting last week with all 4 teachers, the counselor and the principal. He goes to a tiny school. There are 80 students in the 4th grade. It is the only school in our district. I feel like they are all from the good ole boy mentality. That I am a bad parent. He just needs more discipline. That he just needs to "cut it out". Friday Carson was playing a math game with a few friend and Carson pretended he was going to bite a friend on the neck (he had bitten a girls ankle the day before). He didn't bite. He received 2 days of On Campus Suspension. Today was his first day back in regular class. At 8:45 the principal calls me, on speakerphone, with Carson in the room. Says that Carson was given a paper to do in Reading and said he couldn't do it and was found rolling on the floor. I asked Carson about the paper. It had 20 things to do on it and he said it was too hard (he only sees TWENTY things...and automatically thinks he can't do it). I reminded him that when he had a paper with a lot of questions or problems on it to just worry about the first one! The move to the next one. Take it one problem/question at a time. The principal then said "If he doesn't do his work I have no place for him here. It's up to Carson if he stays or goes home. His choice." While I agree he sometimes needs to be given choices... I don't believe you should tell a kid who hates school because he is different, hates to do his work because he always thinks he will fail and hates school because he doesnt think anyone there CARES about him that he can decide if he wants to go home!!!! I don't know what to do. I called the counselor and gave her an explnation about why I THINK he acted the way he did (over whelemd). I also voiced my concerns over what the principal had said. She said I would need to talk to him. I told her I was thinking of getting info from the doctor regarding IEP (I REALLY think Carson needs an aide--to keep him on track, someone who can get involved in situations BEFORE they become situations. A cheer leader. A person who can give him instructions several times as he does the work). Looking at IEP stuff online is like reading Spanish to me...sigh. I asked the counselor if I could voulunteer at the school as his aide for a temporary time...or as long as he needs one. I think he needs confidence in the classroom and the teachers dont have time. That was a HUGE complaint of theirs in the meeting. "He's taking valuable teaching time away from the other students." She said "I don't know". She said she would talk to the Principal and have him call me. Yeah, I'm waiting on pins and needles. I called and made an appointment with Carson's doctor. I don't know where to go, what to do... I'm the only one who can help Carson--the school doesnt want to. And I have no idea WHAT to do, WHO to turn to or WHAT to ask/demand. I just keep praying, crying and praying... I need help.