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Junglelandmama
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Hi family,
I know I am not alone with what is troubling me right now. Our kids, for the most part look "normal" from the outside. My difficult child is tall, beautiful and very athletic. To the outsider, she "looks normal".
But then, in the grocery store she flips out when she doesn't get whatever it is she HAS to have that day/minute/second. Here is this 5'10" girl drooling, spitting, raging in the middle of the store and people are all just standing there staring.
I try to do as therapist suggests, talk calmly, try to hug her, walk away, remove the audience. But mostly I just want to knock her head off her shoulders, if I could reach it! chuckle
And, in the midst of all this, there is my "easy child" 7 yo daughter witnessing this mess and all I want to do is run away and remove her from this crappolla.
I have tried the discussion before entering the store, if behavior is good...this will happen... If behavior is bad... this will happen...
My husband is on the same page, finally, and does the same thing. We are to the point of not taking her anywhere anymore. But then, how does she learn appropriate behavior, get rewarded for such and then maybe earn more trips?
husband did a test run last night, short list, took just difficult child and she did ok, not great, but no raging, just pouting and angry. Guess that's a start.
I am feeling sad and overwhelmed at this moment. Guess that is a sure sign I need a meeting (NA)!
Had her transition to HS IEP last Friday. The program they have sounds good. She is at 3rd grade level and they hope to get her up to 6th grade level by end of HS. Discussion of diploma tract or something else, can't remember the name of it. Makes me sad, she wants to play basketball for college so badly. Praying we can make that happen for her.
Anyways, just venting I guess. Feeling sad for difficult child because once people are with her a little while, they realize something's just not quite right and she is aware of it now.
Hugs, Vickie
I know I am not alone with what is troubling me right now. Our kids, for the most part look "normal" from the outside. My difficult child is tall, beautiful and very athletic. To the outsider, she "looks normal".
But then, in the grocery store she flips out when she doesn't get whatever it is she HAS to have that day/minute/second. Here is this 5'10" girl drooling, spitting, raging in the middle of the store and people are all just standing there staring.
I try to do as therapist suggests, talk calmly, try to hug her, walk away, remove the audience. But mostly I just want to knock her head off her shoulders, if I could reach it! chuckle
And, in the midst of all this, there is my "easy child" 7 yo daughter witnessing this mess and all I want to do is run away and remove her from this crappolla.
I have tried the discussion before entering the store, if behavior is good...this will happen... If behavior is bad... this will happen...
My husband is on the same page, finally, and does the same thing. We are to the point of not taking her anywhere anymore. But then, how does she learn appropriate behavior, get rewarded for such and then maybe earn more trips?
husband did a test run last night, short list, took just difficult child and she did ok, not great, but no raging, just pouting and angry. Guess that's a start.
I am feeling sad and overwhelmed at this moment. Guess that is a sure sign I need a meeting (NA)!
Had her transition to HS IEP last Friday. The program they have sounds good. She is at 3rd grade level and they hope to get her up to 6th grade level by end of HS. Discussion of diploma tract or something else, can't remember the name of it. Makes me sad, she wants to play basketball for college so badly. Praying we can make that happen for her.
Anyways, just venting I guess. Feeling sad for difficult child because once people are with her a little while, they realize something's just not quite right and she is aware of it now.
Hugs, Vickie