I am a concerned loving sister to a wonderful mother. We are both stay at home mothers, we talk daily.
I am positive that there some thing so seriously wrong with her 6 yr old daughter that I am terrified they will find their other child either seriously injured or ( God forbid) dead. Can I please get some input here? She has come to me several times... sometimes scared of what she has witnessed. Each time I can only say...maybe you should get her evaluated. Partly because I am digesting what I just heard. Please give me some feedback!! Here are some things I have seen for myself (I know this child very well & love her) and what she has told me has happened:
-She nearly killed the family puppy. Watched it yelping and struggling to breathe. When her mom found her , screaming to stop. she acted as if she didn't hear a thing. when she let go she acted as if it never happened. Absolutely no remorse, concern for the dog.
- Horribly cruel to sibling. I have seen this myself. I will not get into it, but only to say that I have never before witnessed this kind of cruelty. When I confront 6 yr old (after tending to sibling) she denies, then blames, then lies, then gets this weird lovie dovie thing going on. Once she sees this all not working, she turns on the fucets. As if she is sorry but blamming sibling the whole time, what?? I retort with "I saw the whole thing".... this is met with tears gone, immediately, all cold like..."well, (sib) was in my way" ....LOOK AT WHAT YOU DID!!! again...cool as a cucumber..."(sib) was in my way I TOLD YOU!!" now she is annoyed with my questions. My mouth wide open, she skips away, humming.
- Bully at school.
- Controlling, only friends are children who are shy, sensitive,quite. That way she can boss them around with-o much resistance. If they say no...she has no more use for them. Is mean, says nasty things to them. Until she thinks of a way to get them to do what she wants. With a snap of a finger she is as nice as can be.
- Pees in odd places with-o the least bit of embarressment. On furniture, floors. can sit in it. Just sit there. Is not secretive about it, honestly thinks there is nothing wrong.
- Has trouble with school work (1ST grade) Yet smart, sharp as a whip!
-Easily bored with most situations.
- Won't listen to parents or other adults. If she is told what to do she gets this face.... anger/yet disconnected. She hears it.
- My hub describes her has having no soul in her eyes.
- Manipulates everyone around her.
- Knows no empathy. NONE. I have known this child all her life.
- Does not learn from her mistakes. Punishments have never worked either.
- Gets pleasure from other's pain. Like a kid with candy. No joke. Especially if she caused it. It is a whole new level of joy. That is when she can not control her smile.
- She got a present for her birthday. Didn't want it. Mom says you need to appreciate what you have. be grateful. NOTHING, no reaction. Mom says well, I will just throw it out then. " Go ahead". never asked about the toy again. In her mind, she won or something. There was no "wait, no mommy...I do want it"
So any ideas??? On what this could be ??
I am positive that there some thing so seriously wrong with her 6 yr old daughter that I am terrified they will find their other child either seriously injured or ( God forbid) dead. Can I please get some input here? She has come to me several times... sometimes scared of what she has witnessed. Each time I can only say...maybe you should get her evaluated. Partly because I am digesting what I just heard. Please give me some feedback!! Here are some things I have seen for myself (I know this child very well & love her) and what she has told me has happened:
-She nearly killed the family puppy. Watched it yelping and struggling to breathe. When her mom found her , screaming to stop. she acted as if she didn't hear a thing. when she let go she acted as if it never happened. Absolutely no remorse, concern for the dog.
- Horribly cruel to sibling. I have seen this myself. I will not get into it, but only to say that I have never before witnessed this kind of cruelty. When I confront 6 yr old (after tending to sibling) she denies, then blames, then lies, then gets this weird lovie dovie thing going on. Once she sees this all not working, she turns on the fucets. As if she is sorry but blamming sibling the whole time, what?? I retort with "I saw the whole thing".... this is met with tears gone, immediately, all cold like..."well, (sib) was in my way" ....LOOK AT WHAT YOU DID!!! again...cool as a cucumber..."(sib) was in my way I TOLD YOU!!" now she is annoyed with my questions. My mouth wide open, she skips away, humming.
- Bully at school.
- Controlling, only friends are children who are shy, sensitive,quite. That way she can boss them around with-o much resistance. If they say no...she has no more use for them. Is mean, says nasty things to them. Until she thinks of a way to get them to do what she wants. With a snap of a finger she is as nice as can be.
- Pees in odd places with-o the least bit of embarressment. On furniture, floors. can sit in it. Just sit there. Is not secretive about it, honestly thinks there is nothing wrong.
- Has trouble with school work (1ST grade) Yet smart, sharp as a whip!
-Easily bored with most situations.
- Won't listen to parents or other adults. If she is told what to do she gets this face.... anger/yet disconnected. She hears it.
- My hub describes her has having no soul in her eyes.
- Manipulates everyone around her.
- Knows no empathy. NONE. I have known this child all her life.
- Does not learn from her mistakes. Punishments have never worked either.
- Gets pleasure from other's pain. Like a kid with candy. No joke. Especially if she caused it. It is a whole new level of joy. That is when she can not control her smile.
- She got a present for her birthday. Didn't want it. Mom says you need to appreciate what you have. be grateful. NOTHING, no reaction. Mom says well, I will just throw it out then. " Go ahead". never asked about the toy again. In her mind, she won or something. There was no "wait, no mommy...I do want it"
So any ideas??? On what this could be ??