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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 74159" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I would be very careful about showing up unannounced, or especially at her workplace.</p><p></p><p>What about a certified letter saying </p><p></p><p>"As per our visitation agreement, we will be there to pick up the kids on Saturday (or whatever, but at least 10 days out) at 8:00 AM (or whatever). We will return them at such and such time. Please have them ready to go. If this is not convenient, please reply by return mail no later than five days in advance to offer an alternative date and time."</p><p></p><p>Put the case number on the top of the letter, and carbon copy it to the file. (Just mail it to the file clerk in the county with a two sentence cover letting "Please file this in XX-XXCXXX file. Contact me if you have any questions.")</p><p></p><p>This is totally unprovocative, and leaves the ball in her court to go on record as being uncooperative. The children's lives are a marathon, not a sprint. I know it seems forever, but you'll get further if you look at the long run and don't try to punish her for every little thing that she does. She's not going to stop if you file contempt charges, and it isn't going to teach her a lesson even if you get the order.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 74159, member: 99"] I would be very careful about showing up unannounced, or especially at her workplace. What about a certified letter saying "As per our visitation agreement, we will be there to pick up the kids on Saturday (or whatever, but at least 10 days out) at 8:00 AM (or whatever). We will return them at such and such time. Please have them ready to go. If this is not convenient, please reply by return mail no later than five days in advance to offer an alternative date and time." Put the case number on the top of the letter, and carbon copy it to the file. (Just mail it to the file clerk in the county with a two sentence cover letting "Please file this in XX-XXCXXX file. Contact me if you have any questions.") This is totally unprovocative, and leaves the ball in her court to go on record as being uncooperative. The children's lives are a marathon, not a sprint. I know it seems forever, but you'll get further if you look at the long run and don't try to punish her for every little thing that she does. She's not going to stop if you file contempt charges, and it isn't going to teach her a lesson even if you get the order. [/QUOTE]
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