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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 668764" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I'm so very sorry you have to be here. I'm struck by the similarities in your post and our situation. My husband, Jabberwocky, just posted, I see. Other than you having other kids and your son wrecking the car, our stories are virtually identical.</p><p> </p><p>We did put our son out for stealing when he was 19. He was in a local homeless shelter for a time and then we co-signed the rent on a cheap apartment because he found a job working nights. He promptly quit and we paid the rent for six months to protect our credit. He's currently at an aunt's house and working, hopefully things will change, but we're not optimistic.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Trust me when I say that throwing our son out with nowhere to go and no money and pretty much nothing but a suitcase was the single hardest thing I've ever done. How do you do it? Because there aren't really any more alternatives. He stole from us while we were supporting him, even buying him cigarettes and giving an allowance. He went to community college, flunked out (never attended) and when he came home we warned him, ONE thing goes missing and we call the police.</p><p> </p><p>$700 went missing.</p><p> </p><p>We did not call the police, because I simply couldn't face it. And it was cash; impossible to prove. But we did put him out.</p><p> </p><p>I think the question becomes, is keeping him home in any way helping him? Is he more reliable? Is he more responsible? Is he growing up? If the answer is no...then it's time to leave the nest. Hard as it is, it becomes the only choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 668764, member: 17309"] I'm so very sorry you have to be here. I'm struck by the similarities in your post and our situation. My husband, Jabberwocky, just posted, I see. Other than you having other kids and your son wrecking the car, our stories are virtually identical. We did put our son out for stealing when he was 19. He was in a local homeless shelter for a time and then we co-signed the rent on a cheap apartment because he found a job working nights. He promptly quit and we paid the rent for six months to protect our credit. He's currently at an aunt's house and working, hopefully things will change, but we're not optimistic. Trust me when I say that throwing our son out with nowhere to go and no money and pretty much nothing but a suitcase was the single hardest thing I've ever done. How do you do it? Because there aren't really any more alternatives. He stole from us while we were supporting him, even buying him cigarettes and giving an allowance. He went to community college, flunked out (never attended) and when he came home we warned him, ONE thing goes missing and we call the police. $700 went missing. We did not call the police, because I simply couldn't face it. And it was cash; impossible to prove. But we did put him out. I think the question becomes, is keeping him home in any way helping him? Is he more reliable? Is he more responsible? Is he growing up? If the answer is no...then it's time to leave the nest. Hard as it is, it becomes the only choice. [/QUOTE]
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