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I Believe My Wife Is In Denial - Not Sure How To Proceed
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 717696" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>We may need to enter couple’s therapy to survive all of this as it is a huge mess and a very sensitive one at that. In the end it really has nothing to do with DS. Rather this is about my fit into her previously existing family with her children. There is much I have not shared here. To say it is unhealthy is a very obvious understatement. To fit in with them, I have to be unhealthy too. </p><p></p><p>I will not discuss anything with DS outside of a therapist’s office, unfortunately I do not trust that my wife will not betray my confidence to him, and simply tell him herself that I have issues with him because of what happened a few years ago.</p><p></p><p>To be honest part of me feels that saying anything at all is simply me playing out my codependency and al anon traits. This is a situation that has nothing to do with me. This child has been very sick for his entire life and he is still sick. Nothing I say or do will change that. And my wife’s choices, both past present and future, are also out of my control. All i can do is participate or not. </p><p></p><p>My wife knows my boundaries and did as she pleased anyway. I tend to agree that the only reasonably healthy thing I can do is simply let them have their visit, and do my own thing without them on that day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 717696, member: 13303"] We may need to enter couple’s therapy to survive all of this as it is a huge mess and a very sensitive one at that. In the end it really has nothing to do with DS. Rather this is about my fit into her previously existing family with her children. There is much I have not shared here. To say it is unhealthy is a very obvious understatement. To fit in with them, I have to be unhealthy too. I will not discuss anything with DS outside of a therapist’s office, unfortunately I do not trust that my wife will not betray my confidence to him, and simply tell him herself that I have issues with him because of what happened a few years ago. To be honest part of me feels that saying anything at all is simply me playing out my codependency and al anon traits. This is a situation that has nothing to do with me. This child has been very sick for his entire life and he is still sick. Nothing I say or do will change that. And my wife’s choices, both past present and future, are also out of my control. All i can do is participate or not. My wife knows my boundaries and did as she pleased anyway. I tend to agree that the only reasonably healthy thing I can do is simply let them have their visit, and do my own thing without them on that day. [/QUOTE]
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