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I bought my kid a tent today, he's homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 675556" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Hi JMom,</p><p>Welcome to this soft place to land. You will find support, comfort, and wisdom here to continue to grow in your healthy detachment. <u>You did not "walk away"</u> from your son. You are not turning your back, but rather just "<em>stepping back</em>" to allow son to move on with his life, in the way that he chooses he will. By detaching with love, you give him freedom, space and wings … to experience challenges and responsibilities to mature and step into his manhood. It may not be the picture you had for him, but it sounds like he is resourceful, confident, and has some respect for you. That he wanted to show you his place, introduce you to his friend, and was thankful for your gifts, shows he values a connection with you.</p><p></p><p></p><p>The folks here on this forum know your hurt and pain. We all hurt here. You are doing the right thing, Mom ... you have accepted the situation that you cannot change him, and you have set boundaries, and he is not asking for anything and still wants to be updated on the family . Something deep in him still cares. These are things to be thankful for.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting with us here. It helps. Others will soon be along with more insights and wisdom and support. You are not alone. Welcome to the forum. Take care and breathe. As you continue to read other threads on the forums, you find common principles and issues throughout and learn from other situations and get strengthened from others' support. Read the article on "detachment" on this forum at this link. It is a great reminder. <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz3vMgrCSmN" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz3vMgrCSmN</a></p><p></p><p>I hope you will find a bit of joy in this holiday time of renewal. I take some comfort in believing that even though I don't understand all the whys and wherefores of our difficult children and their situations, that all works together for good in some way.</p><p>It is a new day... <em>You are going to be alright</em>... Kalahou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 675556, member: 19617"] Hi JMom, Welcome to this soft place to land. You will find support, comfort, and wisdom here to continue to grow in your healthy detachment. [U]You did not "walk away"[/U] from your son. You are not turning your back, but rather just "[I]stepping back[/I]" to allow son to move on with his life, in the way that he chooses he will. By detaching with love, you give him freedom, space and wings … to experience challenges and responsibilities to mature and step into his manhood. It may not be the picture you had for him, but it sounds like he is resourceful, confident, and has some respect for you. That he wanted to show you his place, introduce you to his friend, and was thankful for your gifts, shows he values a connection with you. The folks here on this forum know your hurt and pain. We all hurt here. You are doing the right thing, Mom ... you have accepted the situation that you cannot change him, and you have set boundaries, and he is not asking for anything and still wants to be updated on the family . Something deep in him still cares. These are things to be thankful for. Keep posting with us here. It helps. Others will soon be along with more insights and wisdom and support. You are not alone. Welcome to the forum. Take care and breathe. As you continue to read other threads on the forums, you find common principles and issues throughout and learn from other situations and get strengthened from others' support. Read the article on "detachment" on this forum at this link. It is a great reminder. [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz3vMgrCSmN[/URL] I hope you will find a bit of joy in this holiday time of renewal. I take some comfort in believing that even though I don't understand all the whys and wherefores of our difficult children and their situations, that all works together for good in some way. It is a new day... [I]You are going to be alright[/I]... Kalahou [/QUOTE]
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