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I bought my kid a tent today, he's homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 675640" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Good morning and welcome to the forum JM. It is a good morning for one reason and its that Christmas is now behind us and that makes our detachment with love and growing understanding of setting boundaries and letting people go and working on ourselves much easier. It is nearly impossible to hang on to ourselves at Christmas and especially harder for moms and sons. </p><p></p><p>I love your whole post and I rated it a winner. Your honesty, your struggle, your sons struggle...your progress...tremendous progress...is amazing. Your story resonated with me as well as it sounds a lot like my story with my son. </p><p></p><p>You can read in other posts here about my sons backstory so I won't go into it here but he has been in jail multiple times for drug related charges, been to rehab multiple times, has been homeless multiple times here in my small city and in a larger city four hours away and on the street in the coldest dead of winter. I have been there and back with him and did so for more than ten years with the last six until 18 months ago the very hardest of my life .</p><p></p><p>Today he has been on an upward path for 18</p><p>Months. Has not been arrested, has worked full time and pays for his own place (a trailer he is ashamed of, figure that) and wants to become an electrician. He is still a work in progress definitely and was recently diagnosed with hep C another challenge to navigate .</p><p></p><p>My son was evidently scared straight. He was in jail 18 months ago and the public defender told him he would likely go to jail the next morning for four years. My son said he laid awake all night long in terror. The next day the judge let him walk with probation and he has been rebuilding his life ever since.</p><p></p><p>JM we cannot know their journey and what it brings. I would have thought 100 other things before that would have been his rock bottom. Not. </p><p></p><p>Letting him go has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. We are all sisters and brothers here because we have lived and are living through the worst kind of pain and it seems to never end.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for the work you do every day as a police officer. Sadly, I had multiple interactions with the police via my sons choices and they have without exception been compassionate and helpful. You can't know how much that meant to me. You are in a unique position to help others through your own painful experience. </p><p></p><p>Please consider going back to alanon, read books line codependent no more and Boundaries and authors like Pema Chodron and Brene brown. They have been invaluable in my own recovery.</p><p></p><p>We are here for you. We so understand. We get it. Please keep posting and sharing. Your struggle is our struggle. Sharing helps us all and there is no judgment or "right or wrong". We are all working out our "own stuff" in our posts...often I will go back and see that I was writing to myself. </p><p></p><p>On this day after Christmas this is a new day. It is a new Chance for each one of us to learn more and grow stronger. We are glad you are here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 675640, member: 17542"] Good morning and welcome to the forum JM. It is a good morning for one reason and its that Christmas is now behind us and that makes our detachment with love and growing understanding of setting boundaries and letting people go and working on ourselves much easier. It is nearly impossible to hang on to ourselves at Christmas and especially harder for moms and sons. I love your whole post and I rated it a winner. Your honesty, your struggle, your sons struggle...your progress...tremendous progress...is amazing. Your story resonated with me as well as it sounds a lot like my story with my son. You can read in other posts here about my sons backstory so I won't go into it here but he has been in jail multiple times for drug related charges, been to rehab multiple times, has been homeless multiple times here in my small city and in a larger city four hours away and on the street in the coldest dead of winter. I have been there and back with him and did so for more than ten years with the last six until 18 months ago the very hardest of my life . Today he has been on an upward path for 18 Months. Has not been arrested, has worked full time and pays for his own place (a trailer he is ashamed of, figure that) and wants to become an electrician. He is still a work in progress definitely and was recently diagnosed with hep C another challenge to navigate . My son was evidently scared straight. He was in jail 18 months ago and the public defender told him he would likely go to jail the next morning for four years. My son said he laid awake all night long in terror. The next day the judge let him walk with probation and he has been rebuilding his life ever since. JM we cannot know their journey and what it brings. I would have thought 100 other things before that would have been his rock bottom. Not. Letting him go has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. We are all sisters and brothers here because we have lived and are living through the worst kind of pain and it seems to never end. Thank you for the work you do every day as a police officer. Sadly, I had multiple interactions with the police via my sons choices and they have without exception been compassionate and helpful. You can't know how much that meant to me. You are in a unique position to help others through your own painful experience. Please consider going back to alanon, read books line codependent no more and Boundaries and authors like Pema Chodron and Brene brown. They have been invaluable in my own recovery. We are here for you. We so understand. We get it. Please keep posting and sharing. Your struggle is our struggle. Sharing helps us all and there is no judgment or "right or wrong". We are all working out our "own stuff" in our posts...often I will go back and see that I was writing to myself. On this day after Christmas this is a new day. It is a new Chance for each one of us to learn more and grow stronger. We are glad you are here. [/QUOTE]
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