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I called CPS on Sons girlfriend with new baby today
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 690407" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I am so sorry DM that you are going through this, it is a whole different way of being a grandparent. In Hawaii, CPS involves Catholic Charities who offer counseling. The system is certainly overtaxed, not enough workers, too many cases.</p><p>Still, I think you did the right thing. What if something happened and you didn't call?</p><p>You have received some good advice, especially about detaching from the chaos. It grates on the soul. I know your intentions are noble, to keep an ear and eye on that precious baby, but in the long run, crazy is as crazy does, who can rationalize with it?</p><p>On Gm and girlfriend calling you, using you to vent but not doing a damn thing about the situation, they are literally making you emotionally shoulder the load, dangling the carrot but you are not allowed to pick up the baby. This is extremely punishing and unfair. It is as if they want to keep you tied to the chaos, and your hands are tied at the same time. They push you to carry the burden of informing authorities, which in my opinion is their responsibility since they are eyewitnesses.</p><p>I know how vexing and frustrating this can be, having gone through it with <em>three grandbabies. </em>Someone else initially called CPS, and we ended up with all three, back then would have raised them, but reunification was CPS goal. We went through group family sessions and all, loved on those babies, only to see them placed back with their parents. It is a hard road. I have called CPS a few times myself with concerns.</p><p>CPS pays a little more attention with babies, not so much when they get older. I would keep calling as the situation warrants.</p><p>My heart goes out to yours as you navigate this. I would suggest going to counseling yourself to receive help keeping your head above the whirlpool of it all. It is so easy to get dragged into the drama without even realizing the toll it takes on you. It is also possibly another witness for the baby, because therapists are mandated to report........</p><p>Malama Pono (take care)</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 690407, member: 19522"] I am so sorry DM that you are going through this, it is a whole different way of being a grandparent. In Hawaii, CPS involves Catholic Charities who offer counseling. The system is certainly overtaxed, not enough workers, too many cases. Still, I think you did the right thing. What if something happened and you didn't call? You have received some good advice, especially about detaching from the chaos. It grates on the soul. I know your intentions are noble, to keep an ear and eye on that precious baby, but in the long run, crazy is as crazy does, who can rationalize with it? On Gm and girlfriend calling you, using you to vent but not doing a damn thing about the situation, they are literally making you emotionally shoulder the load, dangling the carrot but you are not allowed to pick up the baby. This is extremely punishing and unfair. It is as if they want to keep you tied to the chaos, and your hands are tied at the same time. They push you to carry the burden of informing authorities, which in my opinion is their responsibility since they are eyewitnesses. I know how vexing and frustrating this can be, having gone through it with [I]three grandbabies. [/I]Someone else initially called CPS, and we ended up with all three, back then would have raised them, but reunification was CPS goal. We went through group family sessions and all, loved on those babies, only to see them placed back with their parents. It is a hard road. I have called CPS a few times myself with concerns. CPS pays a little more attention with babies, not so much when they get older. I would keep calling as the situation warrants. My heart goes out to yours as you navigate this. I would suggest going to counseling yourself to receive help keeping your head above the whirlpool of it all. It is so easy to get dragged into the drama without even realizing the toll it takes on you. It is also possibly another witness for the baby, because therapists are mandated to report........ Malama Pono (take care) (((Hugs))) Leaf [/QUOTE]
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