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I called CPS on Sons girlfriend with new baby today
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<blockquote data-quote="detachingmother" data-source="post: 690790" data-attributes="member: 20063"><p>Good News! </p><p></p><p>CPS did show up the very next morning after I posted the initial post, and by early afternoon I was in the car on the way to pick up grand baby.</p><p></p><p>The GFs father stuck close to the home bc he knew I had called. He was there when the CPS worker showed up and verified the validity of everything I told the CPS worker on the phone.</p><p></p><p>I picked up the baby and brought her home with me for three days. While CPS didn't demand it, they highly encouraged the girlfriend to let the baby come to my house so that everyone there could get a break, so to speak. Seems she wants to cooperate and this is good for her if she wants to keep herself out of trouble.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, while I had the baby, the mother of the girlfriend took her straight to the psychiatrist to get another medication cocktail ordered and started. They kept her on xanax, and also ordered Anafranil. This I was unaware that she had been on before and it helps her, according to the family. </p><p></p><p>I scratch my head in dismay as to why in the heck she came off medications that were working in everyone's favor in the first place. If she's living with her parents, they need to make that a condition of her staying there. Well, this is what I am working on with the dad and I'm happy he agrees, hence the eviction order father got the other day. I am pretty sure he fully intends to boot her if she doesn't stay on medications.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, her father also went to the courthouse and filed an eviction notice on her, not that he will kick her out, if she takes her medications, but if she doesn't take her medications and stay on her medications, she's out and we will make more moves to protect the baby.</p><p></p><p>Without her dad on my side, I fear this could be way worse. So I have to keep him on my side. Her dad even showed CPS the door girlfriend broke out of anger, although it was the front door to the house so it wasn't easy to miss and wonder about...</p><p></p><p>I was surprised that when I picked up the baby, the girlfriend actually hugged me and said she was very sorry. She wasn't mad, and if she was it didn't show. She had a bag packed perfectly, other than only a few diapers and tiny bit of formula. Ok. No big deal and major progress---I bought everything she needed for my house in short order.</p><p></p><p>The GFs mother was cordial, and we had no issues, although I knew she was beyond furious with me for calling CPS. They knew I called, bc I told them I did, and that I would make damn sure I would take every possible avenue to prevent any damage to the baby, physical or psychological.</p><p></p><p>I took the baby back to that family saturday night. I think for now we are all going to work together. Although I know it's somewhat of a miracle today, tomorrow they could be right back to crazy land...</p><p></p><p>The GFs sister was a different story...she was highly upset (seeing red mad and fought with the family for letting it happen before storming out mad) I took the baby home with me... but, I could care less what she thinks and she better stay out of my way, or else she will find out that my calm demeanor doesn't equal ignorance.</p><p></p><p>CPS will be continuing to monitor and make "home visits" to keep an eye on things, at least for now. girlfriend is on her medications and sounds ok. She's much quieter than usual and not blowing up my phone by text lately, which at times can be wicked and very telling of her mental illness. She's quiet and that tells me she's behaving at least in a calmer way.</p><p></p><p>I was so happy to have baby in my care for those days. What a blessing and one I wasn't expecting so soon. Now they are planning on letting me pick her up again soon. Yeah me and grand baby. </p><p></p><p>Now if she can stay on her medications, this could work. But we all know how this goes, when the person starts to feel better.....buh bye medications are into the toilet. Can't help the pessimism at times.</p><p></p><p>Forward progress is all I can ask for and we are in forward motion this week.</p><p></p><p>Son on the other hand is on my nerves as he is reminding me of all the money he needs when he gets out of rehab until he can get working again and pay me back. He always makes quick fast money and good money, but before he went to jail and rehab he always blew it all...you know, drugs, compulsive buys, spoiled girlfriend etc...now he's begging me and telling me he will pay me back. so hard to trust him yet...time will tell...</p><p></p><p>For now I told him he had to sell his things to get money now. He's going to be staying at my mother's when he gets out, for a bit, while he gets back on his feet....he can sell his expensive TV/other electronics and washer and dryer and/or whatever else, since he's not going to need it at Hotel Gramma for a few months, lol. That's what I told him. Then he got mad and started his rambling and I shut my phone off.</p><p></p><p>He can sell his stuff and that's final, and he can buy more in a few months after he's back up and running. In a few days, I suspect he will see it my way and have me post it online to sell.</p><p></p><p>Just because there's a baby, he's not off the hook and I am in no way eager to get back to enabling his arse...it's his choices that landed us all into this position....I'm only willing to keep grand baby safe and in my life. Again, time will tell. Always leery of what the future holds...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="detachingmother, post: 690790, member: 20063"] Good News! CPS did show up the very next morning after I posted the initial post, and by early afternoon I was in the car on the way to pick up grand baby. The GFs father stuck close to the home bc he knew I had called. He was there when the CPS worker showed up and verified the validity of everything I told the CPS worker on the phone. I picked up the baby and brought her home with me for three days. While CPS didn't demand it, they highly encouraged the girlfriend to let the baby come to my house so that everyone there could get a break, so to speak. Seems she wants to cooperate and this is good for her if she wants to keep herself out of trouble. Meanwhile, while I had the baby, the mother of the girlfriend took her straight to the psychiatrist to get another medication cocktail ordered and started. They kept her on xanax, and also ordered Anafranil. This I was unaware that she had been on before and it helps her, according to the family. I scratch my head in dismay as to why in the heck she came off medications that were working in everyone's favor in the first place. If she's living with her parents, they need to make that a condition of her staying there. Well, this is what I am working on with the dad and I'm happy he agrees, hence the eviction order father got the other day. I am pretty sure he fully intends to boot her if she doesn't stay on medications. Anyway, her father also went to the courthouse and filed an eviction notice on her, not that he will kick her out, if she takes her medications, but if she doesn't take her medications and stay on her medications, she's out and we will make more moves to protect the baby. Without her dad on my side, I fear this could be way worse. So I have to keep him on my side. Her dad even showed CPS the door girlfriend broke out of anger, although it was the front door to the house so it wasn't easy to miss and wonder about... I was surprised that when I picked up the baby, the girlfriend actually hugged me and said she was very sorry. She wasn't mad, and if she was it didn't show. She had a bag packed perfectly, other than only a few diapers and tiny bit of formula. Ok. No big deal and major progress---I bought everything she needed for my house in short order. The GFs mother was cordial, and we had no issues, although I knew she was beyond furious with me for calling CPS. They knew I called, bc I told them I did, and that I would make damn sure I would take every possible avenue to prevent any damage to the baby, physical or psychological. I took the baby back to that family saturday night. I think for now we are all going to work together. Although I know it's somewhat of a miracle today, tomorrow they could be right back to crazy land... The GFs sister was a different story...she was highly upset (seeing red mad and fought with the family for letting it happen before storming out mad) I took the baby home with me... but, I could care less what she thinks and she better stay out of my way, or else she will find out that my calm demeanor doesn't equal ignorance. CPS will be continuing to monitor and make "home visits" to keep an eye on things, at least for now. girlfriend is on her medications and sounds ok. She's much quieter than usual and not blowing up my phone by text lately, which at times can be wicked and very telling of her mental illness. She's quiet and that tells me she's behaving at least in a calmer way. I was so happy to have baby in my care for those days. What a blessing and one I wasn't expecting so soon. Now they are planning on letting me pick her up again soon. Yeah me and grand baby. Now if she can stay on her medications, this could work. But we all know how this goes, when the person starts to feel better.....buh bye medications are into the toilet. Can't help the pessimism at times. Forward progress is all I can ask for and we are in forward motion this week. Son on the other hand is on my nerves as he is reminding me of all the money he needs when he gets out of rehab until he can get working again and pay me back. He always makes quick fast money and good money, but before he went to jail and rehab he always blew it all...you know, drugs, compulsive buys, spoiled girlfriend etc...now he's begging me and telling me he will pay me back. so hard to trust him yet...time will tell... For now I told him he had to sell his things to get money now. He's going to be staying at my mother's when he gets out, for a bit, while he gets back on his feet....he can sell his expensive TV/other electronics and washer and dryer and/or whatever else, since he's not going to need it at Hotel Gramma for a few months, lol. That's what I told him. Then he got mad and started his rambling and I shut my phone off. He can sell his stuff and that's final, and he can buy more in a few months after he's back up and running. In a few days, I suspect he will see it my way and have me post it online to sell. Just because there's a baby, he's not off the hook and I am in no way eager to get back to enabling his arse...it's his choices that landed us all into this position....I'm only willing to keep grand baby safe and in my life. Again, time will tell. Always leery of what the future holds... [/QUOTE]
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