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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 56789" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's a hard one. From what I know of the Miss S's of this world, she would have considered your daughter and this other boy, as well as the other students, in her decision. But sometimes people have to make these life decisions for their own reasons and a good teacher has to recognise that if they wait until they're not needed, they'll never have the freedom to change schools. All she can do is hope that her replacement is as dedicated.</p><p></p><p>And that's all you can do, too. it's not good for our kids to become too reliant on one special person. But it happens - it happened with difficult child 1 as a baby and toddler, and it happened with difficult child 3, when he got the same aide for years because they simply couldn't get aides to stay over successive years until they got "the angel".</p><p></p><p>What I suggest you do - tell your daughter as gently as possible, try to put a good spin on it and suggest that the teacher they get to replace Miss S, while being a different person, could be just as much a support as Miss S.</p><p></p><p>Then monitor. See how it goes, give the new person a chance to catch up a bit but make it clear as to what needs to be done. If the replacement simply isn't up to scratch, then I would consider moving her. Early in the new school year shouldn't make too much difference, you'll have had enough time to see how the replacement is working out (or not). The IEP should transfer without too much hassle, but before the move I would be setting up a Learning team Meeting at the prospective new school, to see if the move is going to work out. Just because they're supposed to be able to transfer funding and support doesn't mean that staff at the new school have any clue, or are prepared to learn.</p><p></p><p>Not having a clue shouldn't be an obstacle, if they're prepared to adapt. It's the school staff who insist the child must adapt to the school, who are the guide as to whether to even bother with that school.</p><p></p><p>I would be talking to other schools while you're also assessing how the replacement teacher is going. It's a probationary period all round, really. So there should be no problem about 'shopping around".</p><p></p><p>Is there a district disabilities coordinator who should be brought on board with this? You do need to keep lines of communication open. be honest about your concerns and your intentions - make it clear that you're considering the transfer as well as considering leaving her where she is - and why.</p><p></p><p>I would also be talking to the other mother, see how she feels. Don't just sit together in misery, work things out in terms of what you both feel your children need. Maybe between the two of you, you could develop a "shopping list" of what sort of support system would coordinate for both your children.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 56789, member: 1991"] It's a hard one. From what I know of the Miss S's of this world, she would have considered your daughter and this other boy, as well as the other students, in her decision. But sometimes people have to make these life decisions for their own reasons and a good teacher has to recognise that if they wait until they're not needed, they'll never have the freedom to change schools. All she can do is hope that her replacement is as dedicated. And that's all you can do, too. it's not good for our kids to become too reliant on one special person. But it happens - it happened with difficult child 1 as a baby and toddler, and it happened with difficult child 3, when he got the same aide for years because they simply couldn't get aides to stay over successive years until they got "the angel". What I suggest you do - tell your daughter as gently as possible, try to put a good spin on it and suggest that the teacher they get to replace Miss S, while being a different person, could be just as much a support as Miss S. Then monitor. See how it goes, give the new person a chance to catch up a bit but make it clear as to what needs to be done. If the replacement simply isn't up to scratch, then I would consider moving her. Early in the new school year shouldn't make too much difference, you'll have had enough time to see how the replacement is working out (or not). The IEP should transfer without too much hassle, but before the move I would be setting up a Learning team Meeting at the prospective new school, to see if the move is going to work out. Just because they're supposed to be able to transfer funding and support doesn't mean that staff at the new school have any clue, or are prepared to learn. Not having a clue shouldn't be an obstacle, if they're prepared to adapt. It's the school staff who insist the child must adapt to the school, who are the guide as to whether to even bother with that school. I would be talking to other schools while you're also assessing how the replacement teacher is going. It's a probationary period all round, really. So there should be no problem about 'shopping around". Is there a district disabilities coordinator who should be brought on board with this? You do need to keep lines of communication open. be honest about your concerns and your intentions - make it clear that you're considering the transfer as well as considering leaving her where she is - and why. I would also be talking to the other mother, see how she feels. Don't just sit together in misery, work things out in terms of what you both feel your children need. Maybe between the two of you, you could develop a "shopping list" of what sort of support system would coordinate for both your children. Marg [/QUOTE]
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