I feel so lost. My adult son, who is 20 yrs of age, still in school, is also developmentally delayed. He has a low IQ. He is so disrespectful and bossy. If you dont follow his orders, things get pretty ugly from throwing chairs to breaking walls. We adopted him when he was 6 yrs of age. He has been to two resi programs due to his angry outbursts but has been home for quite a few years but nothing has worked. the minute he gets up, he starts with the demands. "where is my ___________" "where is my _________" When I try to tell him that I didn't have it he then tells me I have to look for them. he has learned this self helplessness. He calls me lazy and every name you can think of. If I stand my ground on not helping him, he goes into these rages where at times we had to call the police to get him admitted into the hospital. lately, the minute he gets up, I just leave the house. I talked to his DSS workers around finding a group home for him, but they dont have any and the fact he is still at home, doesn't make him a priority. The sad part is, I am not even sure if I love him anymore. If he wasnt delayed, he would of been out on ass a long time ago and probably even in jail by his violent behavior. I am not sure what to do. So I am reaching out to see if anyone has any thoughts. I know I sound like a horrible person, but its hard to be around someone that just wants to battle with you if you dont do what they want.