This morning went beautifully, S woke up on his own (which is always a good thing), was happy to help make his breakfast, got his clothes out. Then it was time to get dressed. Now this is not a sensory problem, its a laziness problem but EVERY frickin day, "dress me" dude, you're 7, dress yourself! (of course I phrase it nicer to him). So the same routine again. Seriously how can we have this fight EVERY day?! EVERY day you have to get dressed. Every day you know I'm not going to do it (its not that I don't want to help and if he has a button problem, etc, I will help) but he's 7, he knows how and is perfectly capable to dress himself. WHY does this happen every day?!
So during the course of this, I said "I am finishing my breakfast, if you're not dressed by the time I"m done you're going to camp in your pajamas." He tells me to shut up. I turn the TV off and tell him he's lost it for the rest of the day. "shut up" So I say to him (which I know doesn't work and causes a meltdown but geez...what else do you do) "how would YOU feel if I told YOU to shut up? that's rude and not something we tell the people we love" And the waterworks start. "YOU TOLD ME TO SHUT UP, I HATE YOU! YOU'RE RUDE! YOU DON'T LOVE ME" "I didn't tell you to shut up, I asked how you would feel if I said that to you." blah blah blah....I give up and start going to put our stuff in the car. he races to get dressed and is in the car. We don't speak on the way to camp and he's happy as a clam by the time we get there.
Give me a frickin break! I know what I said doesn't work but I just don't know what else to do. In the grand scheme shut up isn't THAT bad, you know? But he just gets so mouthy and downright rude and it makes me mad and I don't know what else to do about it. he's only 7. Lord help us when he's older and knows worse words than shut up.
And I know tonight is going to suck because he's not going to remember this AT ALL after camp and he's still not going to have TV tonight because forgetting does not mean it didn't happen.
So during the course of this, I said "I am finishing my breakfast, if you're not dressed by the time I"m done you're going to camp in your pajamas." He tells me to shut up. I turn the TV off and tell him he's lost it for the rest of the day. "shut up" So I say to him (which I know doesn't work and causes a meltdown but geez...what else do you do) "how would YOU feel if I told YOU to shut up? that's rude and not something we tell the people we love" And the waterworks start. "YOU TOLD ME TO SHUT UP, I HATE YOU! YOU'RE RUDE! YOU DON'T LOVE ME" "I didn't tell you to shut up, I asked how you would feel if I said that to you." blah blah blah....I give up and start going to put our stuff in the car. he races to get dressed and is in the car. We don't speak on the way to camp and he's happy as a clam by the time we get there.
Give me a frickin break! I know what I said doesn't work but I just don't know what else to do. In the grand scheme shut up isn't THAT bad, you know? But he just gets so mouthy and downright rude and it makes me mad and I don't know what else to do about it. he's only 7. Lord help us when he's older and knows worse words than shut up.
And I know tonight is going to suck because he's not going to remember this AT ALL after camp and he's still not going to have TV tonight because forgetting does not mean it didn't happen.