Hello, I was desperately searching the Internet looking for any advice at all and I came across this site. My long story as briefly as possible: My almost 21 year old is no longer living with us. His downward spiral started when he was 18 and went to college. He did nothing while there. For the entire year he smoked pot, drank and watched Netflix. He was caught with booze in his fridge. He has been through 3 cars and 5 jobs. One of which was at a treasured camp for him that he was the head counselor at. He and his other counselor friends were drinking at night on the property. He isn't living with us because he was kicked out for getting his 15 year old brother stoned. We have caught him stealing from us awhile back. He cried and said he was horrified at his behavior. After we kicked him out, he ended up having no where to go and slept at Walmart. We allowed him to come back and sign a contract that included $100 rent a week (helping to pay back the money he had cost us getting himself into trouble) He blew everything on the contract, had sex in our camper and lied about it (didn't even bother to clean up). He is now living with family friends. He is supposedly working (although I have heard that he lost his job) but today I came in the house and he was in my dressing room and had our cash box in his hand. . He denied adamantly (just about as adamantly as he did over the camper incident) that he was taking money. He said he was looking for the medication I had given his sister to pass along to him and she didn't. (That part is true but why my drawers??). I don't believe him, I had some other money in a top drawer that has recently also gone missing. As of right now, I am heart broken. I don't know what to do. I am so sad. My husband is angry and wants to write him off forever. I am just at a loss and don't know how to move on besides getting a large safe and locking my stuff up. Please, if anyone out there has some words of wisdom, please share. My heart is so heavy that my once sweet, loving, super talented boy is in this place.