We just cannot live with M anymore. She is still not working, though she says she is applying to everything and everywhere at night. I wouldn't know as she has not been home for the past two nights. Her and Connor have been spending the night somewhere. She doesn't tell me much - only says the name of the town. Let me be clear - I do not think she is on drugs again. There were times where I became suspicious, but none of the signs are there except the attitude (which apparently is part of her personality and not the drugs, unfortunately). I really think she is trying to prove her adulthood and independence. Which is FINE, don't get me wrong. My major complaint is the "sleeping over" someone else's house with her son. I mean, that isn't normal? I know she would never put her son in danger. But, it bugs me that I don't know where they are. Is it the controlling part of me or is that normal? But goodness there are things that drive me nuts - she is a slob. MAJOR slob. Sure, she cleans the house once a week but she is paid for that. She leaves her room a mess, leaves the lights on, tv on, and takes off to her friends and doesn't come home that night. She came home while I was at work yesterday. She fed Connor breakfast and left the mess in the dining room while she took off again. I was not happy to come home to food all over his chair and on the floor. Other little things, too. Like my asking her over and over not to turn on the flood lights outside - she continues to do it. I tape the switches down and she removed the tape to turn the light on! Small thing, but she does not contribute to any bills here. I guess it just really boils down to it is TOO difficult to live with adult children. I know I cannot make her come home at night and I told her if she doesn't want to be here, that is fine - MOVE OUT. I don't think it is right that Connor is not sleeping in the same bed every night. Children need stability. She threatens me constantly about taking Connor and moving out. I told her to stop with the threats and just move already. If she can find someone that is going to support both her and her son while she is not working - go on then. They are not threats to me anymore. They are empty promises. I will have less stress and more money! I will really, really miss seeing that baby boy every day but maybe we can get along with his mother better if they are not living here. I have said many times that we will take him every other weekend. Of course, we cannot kick her out. But I DO hope that she does actually move out soon. Janet - if you are reading this - husband and I have talked about leaving the kids the house and getting an apartment somewhere...lol. If we could afford to - we would!!