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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 633101" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>I remember when she first got there, she was such a hard worker. She was also so very thankful for all you had done, and still do, for her and the baby. As time went on, she slowly did less and less to take care of her business. From your posts I can see her attitude has taken a turn in the same direction. From the pattern it may get even worse for all of you, especially Connor.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday,I sent my own son an e-mail that didn't touch the content of his behavior - I'm not fighting with anyone-but it was about pride for himself. (He told me I don't act like an adult, he feels sorry me and even sorrier for husband...etc, etc...you know,hate mail for me.I have been ignoring these e-mails but sent this one)</p><p></p><p>Here is what I wrote about making good decisions. I told him I don't want him doing the right thing because of fear (fear of a consequence or embarrassment), I don't want him making good choices because he hopes for a reward or because he wants to please someone. I want him to take pride in himself, to do things the right way because it feels good in himself to accomplish a thing and there is nothing like that feeling you have of feeling proud and being a good person. I want him to put himself in another person's shoes, imagine how they would feel, or what they are going thorough in their lives and have compassion. I told him to be kind to everyone from the President to a homeless person. Don't look your nose down at others, a great man makes others feel great. </p><p> </p><p>I have been reading a book called, "Teach Like Your Hair Is On Fire". It's so wonderful, mainly it's about classroom management, but also about teaching kids trust, morals, cooperation, compassion. Those are some of the things in the book, read it even though you aren't a teacher, it's great.</p><p></p><p>On another note, my difficult child met his wife after she had a baby weeks prior. She was living with the baby's father, they broke up, she moved in with her religious parents right before the birth. When the baby was just a newborn she stayed over difficult child's house frequently. I wondered what her parents thought. I can imagine they were upset because they were upset she had a baby out of wedlock. I think you have to trust she's making good decisions about where they are. Just let it go, you must.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 633101, member: 2668"] I remember when she first got there, she was such a hard worker. She was also so very thankful for all you had done, and still do, for her and the baby. As time went on, she slowly did less and less to take care of her business. From your posts I can see her attitude has taken a turn in the same direction. From the pattern it may get even worse for all of you, especially Connor. Yesterday,I sent my own son an e-mail that didn't touch the content of his behavior - I'm not fighting with anyone-but it was about pride for himself. (He told me I don't act like an adult, he feels sorry me and even sorrier for husband...etc, etc...you know,hate mail for me.I have been ignoring these e-mails but sent this one) Here is what I wrote about making good decisions. I told him I don't want him doing the right thing because of fear (fear of a consequence or embarrassment), I don't want him making good choices because he hopes for a reward or because he wants to please someone. I want him to take pride in himself, to do things the right way because it feels good in himself to accomplish a thing and there is nothing like that feeling you have of feeling proud and being a good person. I want him to put himself in another person's shoes, imagine how they would feel, or what they are going thorough in their lives and have compassion. I told him to be kind to everyone from the President to a homeless person. Don't look your nose down at others, a great man makes others feel great. I have been reading a book called, "Teach Like Your Hair Is On Fire". It's so wonderful, mainly it's about classroom management, but also about teaching kids trust, morals, cooperation, compassion. Those are some of the things in the book, read it even though you aren't a teacher, it's great. On another note, my difficult child met his wife after she had a baby weeks prior. She was living with the baby's father, they broke up, she moved in with her religious parents right before the birth. When the baby was just a newborn she stayed over difficult child's house frequently. I wondered what her parents thought. I can imagine they were upset because they were upset she had a baby out of wedlock. I think you have to trust she's making good decisions about where they are. Just let it go, you must. [/QUOTE]
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