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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 633106" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>Oh I am not worried about visitation with Connor. Luckily here in Georgia, we have grandparents rights and I can sue for visitation. But I don't see her not taking us up on our offer of taking him for weekends.</p><p> </p><p>As far as drugs, I have been watching her very closely when ever she is here. She does not have the grey color of skin - her color is perfectly normal, her pupils are normal, she doesn't sleep in that dead coma for days and then get up and eat everything in the kitchen. I will never ever forget those signs. It was a nightmare. As far as other drugs, she is tested by her PO and is clean as a whistle every single time. I have seen her cut off relationships with people because they are using again. I don't think drugs are the issue, but I am continuing to watch her closely - you just never know.</p><p> </p><p>I am really suspicious of the attitude being hormonal. I truly do think she needs to take something for it but she refuses.</p><p> </p><p>Upallnight - what you wrote struck me: "I remember when she first got there, she was such a hard worker. She was also so very thankful for all you had done, and still do, for her and the baby. As time went on, she slowly did less and less to take care of her business."</p><p> </p><p>I think that is a major problem and I had a feeling as I was doing it and still couldn't stop myself. My husband warned me in the beginning that I was doing too much for her. I gave her everything. Even the car - bought her a car. She has done nothing but complain about the car ever since so I told her fine, she does not have to pay me back for the car. She can save up for another one and give that one to her brother. (I am chalking it up as a loss at this point). I put her insurance under my name and I am paying for it. I did all this because I knew she needed it to work. Yet she appreciates none of it because it was handed to her. I have reminded myself lately - never do for them what they can do for themselves and I want to kick my own butt for everything I have been doing for her. I think I have been creating the monster...</p><p> </p><p>And I also wonder if she met someone. She said she was crushing on someone but didn't give a lot of details. I know that he lives nearby. I have to wonder if that is where she has been and is not telling me because she knows I will not approve of her introducing someone to Connor so soon. I especially would not approve of her sleeping over there with her child. I know she has felt really let down being a single mom and not having a "baby daddy" around. I know I felt the same when I was a single mom with her. And if that is the case, that is fine, too. I just really hope and pray that he will be a good man like my husband was/is. Matter of fact, if she met someone good and developed a relationship - I would be thrilled! You know, thinking on this, I can't help but wonder if she did. She doesn't like me knowing about men she is interested in because once I meet them and like them, she usually loses interest. That is what happened to the last one even before he started acting so controlling. Wonder if she is keeping this one on the down low...hmm...</p><p>Either way, we need to have a talk. I need to know what is going on (besides the fact that her and I cannot get along). I really let off on her via texts yesterday so I am not surprised she didn't come home last night. I am very aware that I am contributing to the problem which is why I feel it is not a good idea to live in the same house anymore. Maybe she needs to start applying for Section 8...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 633106, member: 15796"] Oh I am not worried about visitation with Connor. Luckily here in Georgia, we have grandparents rights and I can sue for visitation. But I don't see her not taking us up on our offer of taking him for weekends. As far as drugs, I have been watching her very closely when ever she is here. She does not have the grey color of skin - her color is perfectly normal, her pupils are normal, she doesn't sleep in that dead coma for days and then get up and eat everything in the kitchen. I will never ever forget those signs. It was a nightmare. As far as other drugs, she is tested by her PO and is clean as a whistle every single time. I have seen her cut off relationships with people because they are using again. I don't think drugs are the issue, but I am continuing to watch her closely - you just never know. I am really suspicious of the attitude being hormonal. I truly do think she needs to take something for it but she refuses. Upallnight - what you wrote struck me: "I remember when she first got there, she was such a hard worker. She was also so very thankful for all you had done, and still do, for her and the baby. As time went on, she slowly did less and less to take care of her business." I think that is a major problem and I had a feeling as I was doing it and still couldn't stop myself. My husband warned me in the beginning that I was doing too much for her. I gave her everything. Even the car - bought her a car. She has done nothing but complain about the car ever since so I told her fine, she does not have to pay me back for the car. She can save up for another one and give that one to her brother. (I am chalking it up as a loss at this point). I put her insurance under my name and I am paying for it. I did all this because I knew she needed it to work. Yet she appreciates none of it because it was handed to her. I have reminded myself lately - never do for them what they can do for themselves and I want to kick my own butt for everything I have been doing for her. I think I have been creating the monster... And I also wonder if she met someone. She said she was crushing on someone but didn't give a lot of details. I know that he lives nearby. I have to wonder if that is where she has been and is not telling me because she knows I will not approve of her introducing someone to Connor so soon. I especially would not approve of her sleeping over there with her child. I know she has felt really let down being a single mom and not having a "baby daddy" around. I know I felt the same when I was a single mom with her. And if that is the case, that is fine, too. I just really hope and pray that he will be a good man like my husband was/is. Matter of fact, if she met someone good and developed a relationship - I would be thrilled! You know, thinking on this, I can't help but wonder if she did. She doesn't like me knowing about men she is interested in because once I meet them and like them, she usually loses interest. That is what happened to the last one even before he started acting so controlling. Wonder if she is keeping this one on the down low...hmm... Either way, we need to have a talk. I need to know what is going on (besides the fact that her and I cannot get along). I really let off on her via texts yesterday so I am not surprised she didn't come home last night. I am very aware that I am contributing to the problem which is why I feel it is not a good idea to live in the same house anymore. Maybe she needs to start applying for Section 8... [/QUOTE]
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