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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 722611" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>You're in a tough spot. I'm sorry for the struggle you're involved with with your daughter. You're not alone, there is an entire team of warrior parents on this site who are going thru every level of the detachment, devastation and depletion that you speak of. </p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, we are the ones who usually have to make the change.....I hear that you've tried certain options and they haven't worked for you. That's unfortunate. Clearly you need support and nurturing now. The hardest place to be is when we feel stuck with no options, it makes everything worse. </p><p></p><p>You might read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. I know you had an unfortunate experience with NAMI, but it might be worth a second try to get into a parent course which may provide options, support, information and guidance.Don't give up on them yet. I think the important factor here is that YOU need support. To that end, keep looking, don't stop, there is no one else whose going to show up and lead you out of this, you're going to have to do it yourself. That's hard, I know, but you can't help your daughter until you help yourself. Do whatever you have to do to gain support of some kind, whether it's NAMI, a new therapist, a support group, a 12 step group, a religious leader, it doesn't matter what or where, as long as it's for YOU. </p><p></p><p>Focus attention on yourself and what YOU need and want. You've been at this a long time.....it's time to put your attention on your needs now. If you can do that, even just a little bit, you'll begin to see shifts and changes....</p><p></p><p>It's hard to figure out what to do when we feel backed into a corner, with no options.....feeling exhausted, depleted and worn out is the result. As is stated around here all the time, "nothing changes until something changes." You'll need to make one small change and then follow it with another small change until you are removed from this stuck place. One small step at a time.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it's remarkable how important it is to be seen and heard, to have our troubles acknowledged by others experiencing the same stuff. It restores our sense of self and our power. </p><p></p><p>You are not alone, all of us here understand the pain, the sorrow, the anger, the exhaustion. We get it. We'll circle the wagons around you as you work yourself thru this. It's hard, but you can do it......... Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 722611, member: 13542"] You're in a tough spot. I'm sorry for the struggle you're involved with with your daughter. You're not alone, there is an entire team of warrior parents on this site who are going thru every level of the detachment, devastation and depletion that you speak of. Unfortunately, we are the ones who usually have to make the change.....I hear that you've tried certain options and they haven't worked for you. That's unfortunate. Clearly you need support and nurturing now. The hardest place to be is when we feel stuck with no options, it makes everything worse. You might read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. I know you had an unfortunate experience with NAMI, but it might be worth a second try to get into a parent course which may provide options, support, information and guidance.Don't give up on them yet. I think the important factor here is that YOU need support. To that end, keep looking, don't stop, there is no one else whose going to show up and lead you out of this, you're going to have to do it yourself. That's hard, I know, but you can't help your daughter until you help yourself. Do whatever you have to do to gain support of some kind, whether it's NAMI, a new therapist, a support group, a 12 step group, a religious leader, it doesn't matter what or where, as long as it's for YOU. Focus attention on yourself and what YOU need and want. You've been at this a long time.....it's time to put your attention on your needs now. If you can do that, even just a little bit, you'll begin to see shifts and changes.... It's hard to figure out what to do when we feel backed into a corner, with no options.....feeling exhausted, depleted and worn out is the result. As is stated around here all the time, "nothing changes until something changes." You'll need to make one small change and then follow it with another small change until you are removed from this stuck place. One small step at a time. Keep posting, it's remarkable how important it is to be seen and heard, to have our troubles acknowledged by others experiencing the same stuff. It restores our sense of self and our power. You are not alone, all of us here understand the pain, the sorrow, the anger, the exhaustion. We get it. We'll circle the wagons around you as you work yourself thru this. It's hard, but you can do it......... Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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