I guess this thread is what it is = I dont know anymore! I got another letter from my difficult child today. He says it makes him sad that we wont let him come home! I understand that and it makes my heart hurt but why cant he see it is for his benefit too!!! I told him he had to prove with actions that he wants to change. It is a slow process and long recovery I know. I cant change it or cure it. I just want the best for him. I asked him what his goals were - they are always to havea a car, girlfriend, job, apartment, etc. never to get sober. I asked him why none of his goals were to get sober - I will see what he says. I hat always to second guess everything and not to believe anything. I read the book by David Sheff Beautiful boy. It is very good. It is all about his son on meth. His sons book is good too. I am surprised he is still alive. It just proves their is hope.