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<blockquote data-quote="italiansass" data-source="post: 58012" data-attributes="member: 3884"><p>Yes I have already ordered the book by Ross Greene, I am ready to try anything with him. Because it seems nothing I do works with him. Time outs don't work because he tries to hurt himself, and bc he can't feel pain normally it doesn't affect him, just me. And holding him to calm him doesn't work, it just enrages him more. Yeah I'm definitely not going to go back to that doctor. Me and my fiance took custody of Joey when he was a year old, and in that time I have never felt so attacked or insulted as a mother to him. I have tried my best to give him everything that will help him live a stable and quality life. </p><p>And I am searching for a doctor, but because we live in the country a doctor isn't easy to find. I'm thinking that I'll contact his pediatrician and see if she'll refill his clonidine until at least November, because I found a really good doctor but his next appointment isn't until November. He done his residency at Johns Hopkins and his special interest are ADHD and devlopmental delays. </p><p>Joey isnt by any means a bad child. He is very loving and very happy usually. And I can't sit with him and read to him, and he has a leap pad that he loves. He knows his ABCs, his basic colors, and can count to 10. When he was diagnosed with CP at 18 months, his neruologists said that almost half of his brain was brain damaged, and that I really shouldn't expect to much from him. So all the things he does I'm extremely proud of bc those are things he wasnt expected to do. To look at him you wouldn't even know he has CP. He is very smart. And to have that doctor tell me that he was one of the worst kids that he has seen in 30 years, it made me so mad and upset. </p><p>I think that if I could only find a behavior modification for him that worked that it would be okay. Because his worse habits are his whining and his meltdowns. I mean he gets extremely explosive and I'm sure I have contributed to this, bc he gets so out of it that I just give in to him. I don't know. I hate it for him, he didnt have the best of life to start out with. HIs mother abused and neglected him, probably contributing or even causing the brain damage in the first place, and I hate that he'll never probably have like other children. </p><p>But I don't think I am a bad mother, I do no different that hundreds of other mothers out there. So I just didn't get why I should be made to feel like a bad mother by that doctor. </p><p>Joey does receive speech therapy, occuptional therapy and physical therapy. And his Occupational Therapist (OT) is working on sensory with him. </p><p>So I don't know, I do know that this actually helps to speak to other parents that have children that are behaviorally challenged. My family and friends don't seem to get it, they think that I make excuses for Joey, and some say theres nothing wrong with him, yet none of them will watch him not even for a couple of hours. And thats okay, bc truthfully I don't think I trust anyone else with him. I know how frustrating it can be with him, and at least with me I know hes safe.</p><p>Anyway, Im sorry this was so long. But thank you sincerely.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="italiansass, post: 58012, member: 3884"] Yes I have already ordered the book by Ross Greene, I am ready to try anything with him. Because it seems nothing I do works with him. Time outs don't work because he tries to hurt himself, and bc he can't feel pain normally it doesn't affect him, just me. And holding him to calm him doesn't work, it just enrages him more. Yeah I'm definitely not going to go back to that doctor. Me and my fiance took custody of Joey when he was a year old, and in that time I have never felt so attacked or insulted as a mother to him. I have tried my best to give him everything that will help him live a stable and quality life. And I am searching for a doctor, but because we live in the country a doctor isn't easy to find. I'm thinking that I'll contact his pediatrician and see if she'll refill his clonidine until at least November, because I found a really good doctor but his next appointment isn't until November. He done his residency at Johns Hopkins and his special interest are ADHD and devlopmental delays. Joey isnt by any means a bad child. He is very loving and very happy usually. And I can't sit with him and read to him, and he has a leap pad that he loves. He knows his ABCs, his basic colors, and can count to 10. When he was diagnosed with CP at 18 months, his neruologists said that almost half of his brain was brain damaged, and that I really shouldn't expect to much from him. So all the things he does I'm extremely proud of bc those are things he wasnt expected to do. To look at him you wouldn't even know he has CP. He is very smart. And to have that doctor tell me that he was one of the worst kids that he has seen in 30 years, it made me so mad and upset. I think that if I could only find a behavior modification for him that worked that it would be okay. Because his worse habits are his whining and his meltdowns. I mean he gets extremely explosive and I'm sure I have contributed to this, bc he gets so out of it that I just give in to him. I don't know. I hate it for him, he didnt have the best of life to start out with. HIs mother abused and neglected him, probably contributing or even causing the brain damage in the first place, and I hate that he'll never probably have like other children. But I don't think I am a bad mother, I do no different that hundreds of other mothers out there. So I just didn't get why I should be made to feel like a bad mother by that doctor. Joey does receive speech therapy, occuptional therapy and physical therapy. And his Occupational Therapist (OT) is working on sensory with him. So I don't know, I do know that this actually helps to speak to other parents that have children that are behaviorally challenged. My family and friends don't seem to get it, they think that I make excuses for Joey, and some say theres nothing wrong with him, yet none of them will watch him not even for a couple of hours. And thats okay, bc truthfully I don't think I trust anyone else with him. I know how frustrating it can be with him, and at least with me I know hes safe. Anyway, Im sorry this was so long. But thank you sincerely. [/QUOTE]
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