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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 677794" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that you had to give up the 'grandma' role & take on the 'parent' role primarily.. That is a hard thing too do, esp when it means you lose contact with your friends. Being a grandparent looks like a really wonderful thing and it is sad for both you and your kids & grands that the roles changed. The grands/daus are both lucky & blessed that you were willing to do this for them. </p><p>s</p><p>I have a couple of book suggestions for you. First is "Parenting Your Kids With Love & Logic" by Fay & Cline. The book offers techniques to hep deall with difficult kids using natural & logical consequence They have versions aimed at the challenges of parenting teens etc.... You can learn more about their books & methods at <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a>. I have recommended this to many of my friends and most of us have had excellent results if we stuck too the methods. I just looked at their website and they have a book for grandparent specifically - "Grandparenting with Love & Logic".</p><p></p><p>As for your anger, it is hard to deal with. Most of our culture and upbringing teaches us that it is not acceptable for women to be angry - we are supposed to be sugar and spice and everything nice... So we are not taught how to cope with anger. Their are more than a few books about women and anger on most bookstore shelves. The one I would suggest has a strong Christian slant, but some of my friends with other religious beliefs have found the book very helpful - they just ignore the parts with the more preachy tone. The book uses humor to help you understand your anger, how it manifests in your body, and how to handle it. It is "She's Gonna Blow! Real Help for Moms Dealing With Anger" by Julie Ann Barnhill. It is available on kindle or print at amazon (used starts at $0.01 + s&h, new is $14.99 and kindle for $9.99). It does not address your problem of having to go back to parenting after having become a grandparent, but you may find it helpful anyway.</p><p></p><p>You may want to contact your local NAMI chapter also. In my area they offer support groups for grandparents who are raising their grandkids. You could find help, support & friends who "get it" at the same time. For other resources, I googled "books for grandparents raising grandchildren" and found a lot of resources - <a href="https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=books+for+grandparents+raising+grandchildren" target="_blank">https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=books+for+grandparents+raising+grandchildren</a> . I hope some of them are helpful!</p><p></p><p>{{{{{hugs}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 677794, member: 1233"] I am sorry that you had to give up the 'grandma' role & take on the 'parent' role primarily.. That is a hard thing too do, esp when it means you lose contact with your friends. Being a grandparent looks like a really wonderful thing and it is sad for both you and your kids & grands that the roles changed. The grands/daus are both lucky & blessed that you were willing to do this for them. s I have a couple of book suggestions for you. First is "Parenting Your Kids With Love & Logic" by Fay & Cline. The book offers techniques to hep deall with difficult kids using natural & logical consequence They have versions aimed at the challenges of parenting teens etc.... You can learn more about their books & methods at [URL='http://www.loveandlogic.com']www.loveandlogic.com[/URL]. I have recommended this to many of my friends and most of us have had excellent results if we stuck too the methods. I just looked at their website and they have a book for grandparent specifically - "Grandparenting with Love & Logic". As for your anger, it is hard to deal with. Most of our culture and upbringing teaches us that it is not acceptable for women to be angry - we are supposed to be sugar and spice and everything nice... So we are not taught how to cope with anger. Their are more than a few books about women and anger on most bookstore shelves. The one I would suggest has a strong Christian slant, but some of my friends with other religious beliefs have found the book very helpful - they just ignore the parts with the more preachy tone. The book uses humor to help you understand your anger, how it manifests in your body, and how to handle it. It is "She's Gonna Blow! Real Help for Moms Dealing With Anger" by Julie Ann Barnhill. It is available on kindle or print at amazon (used starts at $0.01 + s&h, new is $14.99 and kindle for $9.99). It does not address your problem of having to go back to parenting after having become a grandparent, but you may find it helpful anyway. You may want to contact your local NAMI chapter also. In my area they offer support groups for grandparents who are raising their grandkids. You could find help, support & friends who "get it" at the same time. For other resources, I googled "books for grandparents raising grandchildren" and found a lot of resources - [URL]https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=books+for+grandparents+raising+grandchildren[/URL] . I hope some of them are helpful! {{{{{hugs}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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