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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675011" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is the bottom line. A parent can't give up on a minor child or blame the child of only ten years old. Something is wrong and you in my opinion need to find out WHY she can't behave. I don't believe a child is born to try to torture us. You probably should have had an evaluation earlier and not worried about being blamed (a good neuropsychologist will not blame you, but look for where the child is differently wired). You in my opinion need to set up an appointment with a great evaluator (not just a therapist) right away so you can know what's going on and help her help herself. The fact that you have not bonded with her is significant and bad for the child. Not blaming you...our feelings can't be helped...but on top of testing her, bonding can be done in therapy. You don't have a bad child and this isn't about your parenting. You have two other kids who are "typically wired" and they are fine. Your daughter is not doing this on purpose; not at her age. She was born different and WILL get worse without help, but if you don't help her, then it in my opinion does fall on us as parents. We have no outcome guarantees, but we do have an obligation to try when our children are minors.</p><p></p><p>I give you a cyber hug for your hurting heart and hope you will heed some of the excellent advice you have received. A neuropsychologist or group of specialists through a university hospital in my opinion are the most capable professionals in figuring out what is wrong with your child...it sounds way beyond ADHD. ADHD is often a first diagnosis., but it rarely stands alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675011, member: 1550"] This is the bottom line. A parent can't give up on a minor child or blame the child of only ten years old. Something is wrong and you in my opinion need to find out WHY she can't behave. I don't believe a child is born to try to torture us. You probably should have had an evaluation earlier and not worried about being blamed (a good neuropsychologist will not blame you, but look for where the child is differently wired). You in my opinion need to set up an appointment with a great evaluator (not just a therapist) right away so you can know what's going on and help her help herself. The fact that you have not bonded with her is significant and bad for the child. Not blaming you...our feelings can't be helped...but on top of testing her, bonding can be done in therapy. You don't have a bad child and this isn't about your parenting. You have two other kids who are "typically wired" and they are fine. Your daughter is not doing this on purpose; not at her age. She was born different and WILL get worse without help, but if you don't help her, then it in my opinion does fall on us as parents. We have no outcome guarantees, but we do have an obligation to try when our children are minors. I give you a cyber hug for your hurting heart and hope you will heed some of the excellent advice you have received. A neuropsychologist or group of specialists through a university hospital in my opinion are the most capable professionals in figuring out what is wrong with your child...it sounds way beyond ADHD. ADHD is often a first diagnosis., but it rarely stands alone. [/QUOTE]
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