TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
difficult child will be 18 this month. So exciting! But terrifying.
Tomorrow, husband takes him out to lease a car. husband loves leases because he can walk away in 3yrs. He has a sportscar that is too close to the ground to drive in the snow, so this winter he will be using the shared car with-difficult child a few times. Other than that, it will be totally difficult child's.
difficult child has to pay for gas, part of the insurance, keep up his grades and be respectful.
I am writing a contract like a POA and will take it to our atty's office next week to have it notarized. One of the items in it will be that in order for us to keep the car for him, he must take his medications and must stay in school. We'll probably make it contingent upon his going to a 2-yr tech school, as well, since he doesn't want to go to college. (He doesn't get it that working at McDonald's for min wage isn't a smart career path.)
I have been on this board since he was in elementary school. I will go to Parent Emeritus, but will toggle back and forth to this board. Breaking up is hard to do! It's sort of like graduation and a funeral at the same time.
We are giving him his annual birthday party with-close family and friends at the local Japanese restaurant on Sunday. Plus use of the car. And then there's Christmas.
The last time we were at the therapist's office, he said that he is excited about turning 18 but he is very worried about all the responsibilities. We've been trying to pile it on, so he doesn't stay out all night and that sort of thing. He'll be living at home for 2 more yrs. At least, that's the plan.
Tomorrow, husband takes him out to lease a car. husband loves leases because he can walk away in 3yrs. He has a sportscar that is too close to the ground to drive in the snow, so this winter he will be using the shared car with-difficult child a few times. Other than that, it will be totally difficult child's.
difficult child has to pay for gas, part of the insurance, keep up his grades and be respectful.
I am writing a contract like a POA and will take it to our atty's office next week to have it notarized. One of the items in it will be that in order for us to keep the car for him, he must take his medications and must stay in school. We'll probably make it contingent upon his going to a 2-yr tech school, as well, since he doesn't want to go to college. (He doesn't get it that working at McDonald's for min wage isn't a smart career path.)
I have been on this board since he was in elementary school. I will go to Parent Emeritus, but will toggle back and forth to this board. Breaking up is hard to do! It's sort of like graduation and a funeral at the same time.
We are giving him his annual birthday party with-close family and friends at the local Japanese restaurant on Sunday. Plus use of the car. And then there's Christmas.
The last time we were at the therapist's office, he said that he is excited about turning 18 but he is very worried about all the responsibilities. We've been trying to pile it on, so he doesn't stay out all night and that sort of thing. He'll be living at home for 2 more yrs. At least, that's the plan.