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I feel I'm losing it because I think I should move to Colorado and save him.
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 702021" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi BG. hugs to your today. It's just so hard when they continue to beg, believing no means maybe, over and over. It takes such a long time for them to quit asking but in my case it took such a long time for us to quit enabling.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Alleviating reality-their specialty. Most of our Difficult Child's<em> want what they want when they want it. </em>Frozen, as if two years old. Our son actually used to say "you don't understand, I do what I want, when I want". I use this often to remind myself that he's choosing this. He simply does not want to live in any other fashion enough, to give up substances. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Do remember this at such a difficult time. I keep a picture on my phone of Difficult Child's baggies, cut straw, etc. found in his room after last move out. It keeps me honest about how bad things had gotten. It's too easy as a mom to say maybe I over-reacted, maybe just one more try, maybe he's changed...I now believe that I'll know it if he wants it-there will be<strong> evidence</strong> of change not just talk. </p><p>In the meantime, be good to yourself. Sounds like your son has had resources aplenty, he will take advantage of that assist or not. It is so not in our hands. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 702021, member: 20054"] Hi BG. hugs to your today. It's just so hard when they continue to beg, believing no means maybe, over and over. It takes such a long time for them to quit asking but in my case it took such a long time for us to quit enabling. Alleviating reality-their specialty. Most of our Difficult Child's[I] want what they want when they want it. [/I]Frozen, as if two years old. [I] [/I]Our son actually used to say "you don't understand, I do what I want, when I want". I use this often to remind myself that he's choosing this. He simply does not want to live in any other fashion enough, to give up substances. Do remember this at such a difficult time. I keep a picture on my phone of Difficult Child's baggies, cut straw, etc. found in his room after last move out. It keeps me honest about how bad things had gotten. It's too easy as a mom to say maybe I over-reacted, maybe just one more try, maybe he's changed...I now believe that I'll know it if he wants it-there will be[B] evidence[/B] of change not just talk. In the meantime, be good to yourself. Sounds like your son has had resources aplenty, he will take advantage of that assist or not. It is so not in our hands. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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