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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 657305" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>((HUGS)) to you!!</p><p> </p><p>The others that have responded have given you some excellent advice. I agree with them.</p><p> </p><p>One thing I have learned is to never underestimate the power of manipulation that our Difficult Child possess. They are very good at leading us on. They will do and say all the right things. They will tell us what our ears long to hear and they will show us what our eyes long to see. It is this that can give us the parents a sense of hope but it's false hope. They hope we will let our guard down and start "helping" them again.</p><p> </p><p>As your daughter has proven as soon as she asked for something and you said "NO" the true personality comes out.</p><p>(GOOD FOR YOU FOR SAYING NO)</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry that your little grandchild is caught in the middle. It's so unfair when a child is used as a pawn.</p><p> </p><p>It's also very typical of our Difficult Child to blame us, the parents for how messed up their lives are. My son has also blamed me and said the same types of things that your daughter has told you. If I had a dollar for every time I heard the "you were never there for me" I'd have a couple extra thousand dollars. When my son would say those things I would remind him that I was always there in court for him, that I paid rent for him, bought him clothes, a car, etc............ Of course he would rebuttal with "Ya, whatever but you were never there for me emotionally"</p><p>It doesn't matter how much "truth" you give them they won't believe you. They have their minds set that we the parents are horrible to them.</p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 22px">You do not deserve to be treated with such disrespect.</span></strong></p><p> </p><p>Again, I agree with the advice the others have given. As much as it hurts because of your grandchild, you need to distance yourself from her. From what you have said this is not the first time you have been sucked back into the Difficult Child vortex. Learn from this, gain strength from this so that you won't be vulnerable again.</p><p> </p><p>Stay close to this site, keep posting, keep reading what others have gone through, find encouragement and tools that you can use. Childofmine coined it "our toolbox" learn from others here and put those lessons into your toolbox and use them.</p><p> </p><p>You will get through this. There are many here that have been where you are, we have survived. You too can go on to live a happy life.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 657305, member: 18516"] ((HUGS)) to you!! The others that have responded have given you some excellent advice. I agree with them. One thing I have learned is to never underestimate the power of manipulation that our Difficult Child possess. They are very good at leading us on. They will do and say all the right things. They will tell us what our ears long to hear and they will show us what our eyes long to see. It is this that can give us the parents a sense of hope but it's false hope. They hope we will let our guard down and start "helping" them again. As your daughter has proven as soon as she asked for something and you said "NO" the true personality comes out. (GOOD FOR YOU FOR SAYING NO) I am so sorry that your little grandchild is caught in the middle. It's so unfair when a child is used as a pawn. It's also very typical of our Difficult Child to blame us, the parents for how messed up their lives are. My son has also blamed me and said the same types of things that your daughter has told you. If I had a dollar for every time I heard the "you were never there for me" I'd have a couple extra thousand dollars. When my son would say those things I would remind him that I was always there in court for him, that I paid rent for him, bought him clothes, a car, etc............ Of course he would rebuttal with "Ya, whatever but you were never there for me emotionally" It doesn't matter how much "truth" you give them they won't believe you. They have their minds set that we the parents are horrible to them. [B][SIZE=6]You do not deserve to be treated with such disrespect.[/SIZE][/B] Again, I agree with the advice the others have given. As much as it hurts because of your grandchild, you need to distance yourself from her. From what you have said this is not the first time you have been sucked back into the Difficult Child vortex. Learn from this, gain strength from this so that you won't be vulnerable again. Stay close to this site, keep posting, keep reading what others have gone through, find encouragement and tools that you can use. Childofmine coined it "our toolbox" learn from others here and put those lessons into your toolbox and use them. You will get through this. There are many here that have been where you are, we have survived. You too can go on to live a happy life. Hang in there!! [/QUOTE]
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