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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657673" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, she CAN learn to control it, but it is up to her. It's not like she can't stop saying what she says or doing what she does. If somebody robs you blind and is aware they are doing it and don't care, for example, just because they are borderline doesn't excuse it nor does it make her safe for you. These people are not insane in any way. They know what they are saying and doing.</p><p></p><p>The problem with personality disordered people is that most never get any better because they don't admit anything is wrong and they won't go for serious and deep and often self-challenging therapy. And if she has borderline there is very specific therapy for that called dialectal behavioral therapy and it requires a long term commitment and tons of hard work. Most borderlines do not want to do it and do not change.And many families find they can not have their personality disordered daughter or son around or it is unpleasant and/or even dangerous to others.There is no way to handle her. She has to be the one to desperately want to change and to get help for herself and work hard on herself. Maybe you need to have separate holidays...one with everyone else and one with her. </p><p></p><p>Don't excuse her. She can get better if she wants to and excusing it will only make her more determined to stay he way she is. Also, there is nobody here who can diagnose yoru daughter. She just sounds like the type of person who is overly hard to deal with and doesn't care who she hurts...that is the hallmark of personality disorders. It is always everybody else's fault. It is never their fault. See? That's why I thought of it.</p><p></p><p>I have a book you may want to pick up.</p><p></p><p>Remember, nobody gets better while they are using drugs.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.walmart.com/ip/10895693?wmlspartner=wlpa&adid=22222222227000034212&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=c&wl3=52933569048&wl4=&wl5=pla&wl6=79596185194&veh=sem" target="_blank">http://www.walmart.com/ip/10895693?wmlspartner=wlpa&adid=22222222227000034212&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=c&wl3=52933569048&wl4=&wl5=pla&wl6=79596185194&veh=sem</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657673, member: 1550"] Well, she CAN learn to control it, but it is up to her. It's not like she can't stop saying what she says or doing what she does. If somebody robs you blind and is aware they are doing it and don't care, for example, just because they are borderline doesn't excuse it nor does it make her safe for you. These people are not insane in any way. They know what they are saying and doing. The problem with personality disordered people is that most never get any better because they don't admit anything is wrong and they won't go for serious and deep and often self-challenging therapy. And if she has borderline there is very specific therapy for that called dialectal behavioral therapy and it requires a long term commitment and tons of hard work. Most borderlines do not want to do it and do not change.And many families find they can not have their personality disordered daughter or son around or it is unpleasant and/or even dangerous to others.There is no way to handle her. She has to be the one to desperately want to change and to get help for herself and work hard on herself. Maybe you need to have separate holidays...one with everyone else and one with her. Don't excuse her. She can get better if she wants to and excusing it will only make her more determined to stay he way she is. Also, there is nobody here who can diagnose yoru daughter. She just sounds like the type of person who is overly hard to deal with and doesn't care who she hurts...that is the hallmark of personality disorders. It is always everybody else's fault. It is never their fault. See? That's why I thought of it. I have a book you may want to pick up. Remember, nobody gets better while they are using drugs. [URL]http://www.walmart.com/ip/10895693?wmlspartner=wlpa&adid=22222222227000034212&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=c&wl3=52933569048&wl4=&wl5=pla&wl6=79596185194&veh=sem[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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