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I feel no love for him - how can that be...
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 717478" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((HUGS)))))</p><p></p><p>I completely understand how you can get to that feeling!!! Don't beat yourself up for your feelings. Feelings are not good or bad. They just are. Don't judge them, all you will do is hurt yourself and you have 4 younger kids who need you to be as good as you can be.</p><p></p><p>If a stranger did even half of what our difficult kids do to us, we would not ever even look at them again unless it was in a courtroom as we pointed them out to a jury. So why are we supposed to have warm, fuzzy loving feelings toward people who hurt, hate and harm us just because they are our children? Clearly they do not have those loving feelings toward us, do they?</p><p></p><p>It is perfectly acceptable to let him go out into the world and do his own thing alone. You have done your years of battle with/for/against him, as needed. Lay down your weapons, let the feasting begin! Focus your energy and talents on your younger kids, the ones who will appreciate you and reciprocate your love. </p><p></p><p>(((((HUGS)))))</p><p></p><p>It is absolutely perfectly fine to feel whatever you feel. Never ever judge your feelings or try to deny them. Feelings just are, and should be accepted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 717478, member: 1233"] (((((HUGS))))) I completely understand how you can get to that feeling!!! Don't beat yourself up for your feelings. Feelings are not good or bad. They just are. Don't judge them, all you will do is hurt yourself and you have 4 younger kids who need you to be as good as you can be. If a stranger did even half of what our difficult kids do to us, we would not ever even look at them again unless it was in a courtroom as we pointed them out to a jury. So why are we supposed to have warm, fuzzy loving feelings toward people who hurt, hate and harm us just because they are our children? Clearly they do not have those loving feelings toward us, do they? It is perfectly acceptable to let him go out into the world and do his own thing alone. You have done your years of battle with/for/against him, as needed. Lay down your weapons, let the feasting begin! Focus your energy and talents on your younger kids, the ones who will appreciate you and reciprocate your love. (((((HUGS))))) It is absolutely perfectly fine to feel whatever you feel. Never ever judge your feelings or try to deny them. Feelings just are, and should be accepted. [/QUOTE]
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