So son called this morning and, with my husband telling me not to as he looked over my shoulder, I answered. what is wrong with me??? I shouldn't have. He started talking about how bad his stomach is, which he does every day (and it scares me) and I told him he really needed to go to the doctor. that his stress has messed up his stomach. He alsi often tells me he cant sleep, his head feels fuzzy, etc. Its probably started because if stress...but chronically these can lead to other, permanent health issues. He hung up. I texted him never to call me again if he was not sure he couldnt stop being disrespectful. His text back: "you keep scaring the crap out of me by continuing to bring up the doctor. You're more harmful than helpful You just added stress. THANKS MOM." I texted I was trying to help and that he shouldnt tell me about his ills then as they worry me. Then I got this. please temember son is in litigation and will not send truly nasty texts even to me right now. "I need to keep my stress level down and you wont stop saying things that add to it. I need to take care of my stress level, not have you make it worse." He then called briefly to reiterate this and I said, "Then dont tell me how bad you feel. it scares me." He said. "No, I wont stop talking about how bad I feel, because its true, but I dont want to hear about the doctor!" I said good bye and hung up and he's been texting me since, probably telling me how I am not helping him and what a bad mother I am, heaping stress on him. I won't read it. I'll have husband delete when he gets home. I dont want to delete because I'll be tempted to read if if its right there. I never know what is okay to say. Now he HAS told me he is stressed out when I mention doctor. Lots of things "stress me out" -or " Should I have just let it go? He has told me not to mesi hung up hecause I told you not to say that." I never know what the list includes. Maybe Im wrong. Should I just not mention doctor? He keeps telling me a lot about his symptoms. Still I cant make him do it. Should I just listen and not mention it? I suppose I could... I am so tired of this, but maybe it IS partly me. Son doesnt take drugs, works, never asks me for money,,,but he can hang up on me or call me stupid every day, usually when he can't control his world. When he is most frustrated. Should I listen anyway? That's all he wants, although he does expect feedback and the feedback lately has caused his hang ups. He has me so dizzy I dont know what to think. He sent those emails and texts AFTER I texted him not to call me unless he could be respectful, that I am a person too and that this hurts me and is not acceptable. Who knows when I'll hear from him again? Why does it hurt? I should be glad, but Im not. Why????