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<blockquote data-quote="ROE" data-source="post: 41176" data-attributes="member: 2276"><p>It sounds to me like you told her what needed to be said. I have no knowledge of how private schools operate or if the school system in Canada is much different than the U.S. I think how they are treating your son is inexcusable. They should be held accountable for following his IEP. Can you go over her head to a director or Supt., if need be, to get through the rest of the year?</p><p></p><p>Over the years I have had several issues with different personnell for different reasons-inappropriate, unprofessional comments, failing to maintain confidentiality etc..I have always confronted the offender one on one, first of all to verify the accuracy of difficult child's account. When they confess to it, and they have, I let them know sternly but calmly how I feel and that I</p><p>expect it to stop. Lucky for me, I have never had to go anyone's head. Twice I lost my cool-once with a teacher and a GC in my difficult child's middle school. I smoothed this one over, I did not agree with her but I politely agreed to disagree. He had several months left in this school before he would move on. Even though she was driving me crazy all year, I felt that I did come on a little strong. Second time was this year, I was called to a school "conference" which was little more than a difficult child bashing session. The GC was condescending and argumentative. The more I thought about it later the more I believed he was trying to set difficult child off -but difficult child didn't go off. I did. I found myself saying, "I don't appreciate the fact that I am raising my voice to you (and getting louder by the second)in response to you raising your voice to me." It all went down hill from there...I was never so angry with a staff member before. Afterward, I thought about it over and over do I owe GC an apology? I decided No, I believed every word that I said to him. I have had to talk to GC since, we managed to be civil but I do try to avoid him.</p><p></p><p>The hair on the back of my neck stood up when I read how the substitute teacher has been treating your difficult child. It's completely unprofessional and INEXCUSABLE. If confronting the teacher about his behavior did not put a stop to it, I'd go right to the top (since it sounds like the next step-acting principal is useless). This person should not be allowed to teach. GRRRR. </p><p></p><p>As far as the personal comments about the teachers own child. I wouldn't feel too badly about it. You probably did her a favor, it sounds like information that she needed to know. </p><p></p><p>Hopefully, your difficult child will get through the next couple of months without any more hassles from the school. If the teacher has an ounce of common sense, she will listen to the message you so clearly portrayed...BACK OFF.</p><p></p><p>Next year will be a fresh start.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ROE, post: 41176, member: 2276"] It sounds to me like you told her what needed to be said. I have no knowledge of how private schools operate or if the school system in Canada is much different than the U.S. I think how they are treating your son is inexcusable. They should be held accountable for following his IEP. Can you go over her head to a director or Supt., if need be, to get through the rest of the year? Over the years I have had several issues with different personnell for different reasons-inappropriate, unprofessional comments, failing to maintain confidentiality etc..I have always confronted the offender one on one, first of all to verify the accuracy of difficult child's account. When they confess to it, and they have, I let them know sternly but calmly how I feel and that I expect it to stop. Lucky for me, I have never had to go anyone's head. Twice I lost my cool-once with a teacher and a GC in my difficult child's middle school. I smoothed this one over, I did not agree with her but I politely agreed to disagree. He had several months left in this school before he would move on. Even though she was driving me crazy all year, I felt that I did come on a little strong. Second time was this year, I was called to a school "conference" which was little more than a difficult child bashing session. The GC was condescending and argumentative. The more I thought about it later the more I believed he was trying to set difficult child off -but difficult child didn't go off. I did. I found myself saying, "I don't appreciate the fact that I am raising my voice to you (and getting louder by the second)in response to you raising your voice to me." It all went down hill from there...I was never so angry with a staff member before. Afterward, I thought about it over and over do I owe GC an apology? I decided No, I believed every word that I said to him. I have had to talk to GC since, we managed to be civil but I do try to avoid him. The hair on the back of my neck stood up when I read how the substitute teacher has been treating your difficult child. It's completely unprofessional and INEXCUSABLE. If confronting the teacher about his behavior did not put a stop to it, I'd go right to the top (since it sounds like the next step-acting principal is useless). This person should not be allowed to teach. GRRRR. As far as the personal comments about the teachers own child. I wouldn't feel too badly about it. You probably did her a favor, it sounds like information that she needed to know. Hopefully, your difficult child will get through the next couple of months without any more hassles from the school. If the teacher has an ounce of common sense, she will listen to the message you so clearly portrayed...BACK OFF. Next year will be a fresh start. [/QUOTE]
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