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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 711642" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I see your way of thinking and I see GN's. Of course older daughter needs supports. But the thing is you will not be there for basic training. She will have to do it herself.</p><p></p><p>Can she? Is your anxiety telling you that you fear she cannot? Does she recognize on some level that she is over her head? Is the recruiter in this for some benefit and willing to put your daughter on the line?</p><p></p><p>I pushed and pushed my son to finish 2 trainings, stay in a reasonable job that required certification, go to college. What he was motivated and able to do was get on SSI and keep it.</p><p></p><p>If at some point he is motivated and able to do something else, he will seek the support he needs to do it. There is never just one opportunity. If it feels that way we are pushing uphill, and gravity eventually takes over.</p><p></p><p>There were times in my life when I pushed uphill and as result I grew in capacity. The operative and defining word here is: I. I wanted it. I pushed for it. I did it. Older daughter can do this too: when she is ready. No amount of wanting by us can make this different. If it could, I would have changed my son and his life. It did not work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 711642, member: 18958"] I see your way of thinking and I see GN's. Of course older daughter needs supports. But the thing is you will not be there for basic training. She will have to do it herself. Can she? Is your anxiety telling you that you fear she cannot? Does she recognize on some level that she is over her head? Is the recruiter in this for some benefit and willing to put your daughter on the line? I pushed and pushed my son to finish 2 trainings, stay in a reasonable job that required certification, go to college. What he was motivated and able to do was get on SSI and keep it. If at some point he is motivated and able to do something else, he will seek the support he needs to do it. There is never just one opportunity. If it feels that way we are pushing uphill, and gravity eventually takes over. There were times in my life when I pushed uphill and as result I grew in capacity. The operative and defining word here is: I. I wanted it. I pushed for it. I did it. Older daughter can do this too: when she is ready. No amount of wanting by us can make this different. If it could, I would have changed my son and his life. It did not work. [/QUOTE]
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