difficult child was being very difficult child'ish today and I came down on him for it. He had a short burst of aggression but that was all it took for me today- I snapped and told him he was going to be taking 7th grade over because he wouldn't get his mind back on school and that at the rate he was going, the probation officer would have him put in detention and the way he's been lately, I didn't know where his head was or what kind of person he was trying to be but if this was it, I was sure they wouldn't let him live at home and I didn't really care because I didn't want him living here that way. About 10-15 mins later, he left (snuck out the back door) and I haven't seen him since. After a while, I started feeling the guilt for having said such mean things- I don't want my son away from home, I want him to do what he's supposed to, Know what I mean?? I want the stability and effort to come back.. He and his best friend (used to be best friend) haven't been getting along, or at least have been staying away from each other for the past few weeks, since they got in trouble. There haven't been any phone calls between them and I've heard the many daily stories about how each have responded to the other during school, so I think it's a safe bet that he isn't there. There has been a guy trying to call here a lot for difficult child. difficult child says he's in 7th grade too, but he sounds older. I have the number- out of state cell phone. difficult child says he moved here this past year..... Changing gears- as I was typing that, here came difficult child. I had already called police and they took a report- I explained about the week we had (medications, hospital, arguement,etc) so he said if they found him they would bring him home and to call right away if difficult child came back. So I called and said he came home- about 15 mins after curfew and walking thru the door apologizing. He had been at this kid's house. Before the policeman returns, kid is already calling for difficult child. I answered and asked for his home phone number- where I could reach a parent- he says they have no other phone- HUH HUH- well, could you tell me where you live , you know, give me your address, and he pulls phone away and I hear him tell his dad what is going on and asking his dad if he should just hang up on me (I actually do hear the voice of an older man in the background replying) and the kid comes back and hangs up on me. So, when policeman gets here and lectures my son, I tell him about this. The kid actually called again during this time- policeman takes phone and starts speaking to this kid, kid then puts his mom on the phone and the cop talks to her and tells her he doesn't blame me for wanting to know who these people are and how I can talk to them and says he has looked on my phone and sees that their son has called here a lot. Anyway, then she is more than willing to talk to me and tell me a phone number. I felt kind of bad for her- and I told her that I wasn't out to cause her or her son a problem but it did seem kind of odd that the kid wouldn't provide a parent contact or address and he hung up on me. Sorry, I'm just the kind of Mom that wants to know where her kid is (we're talking 13yo here). And, I was worried because I had never met the other kid, his number had a PA area code, and his voice sounds like he's in his 20's. GEEEZ, another typical day in the life of a difficult child and his Mom. Does this drama ever end so we can actually have a NORMAL life?