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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 69412" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hey, been there done that!!!!</p><p>Hugs.</p><p>There is a diff between loving and liking. I understand completely. </p><p>And I agree with-others here that you have to take care of yourself. And also, that some behaviors must be overlooked. That was one of the hardest things for me to learn. One of the things I gave up was having my difficult child look nice every day. He usually picks out his own clothes (this, after we took away all his clothes, and issued them daily, like when you're in prison) and he actually knows how to color coordinate. However, he still does weird things like wear swim trunks in the winter, instead of long pants, and no socks. He comes back in the house 20 min. later complaining and I just point to the long pants and socks and walk away, LOL! It has done a lot for my peace of mind.</p><p>Sometimes when it gets me down, that part about a life sentence, I put it out of my mind and stare at the wall. Really. It used to be that when he was stalling, taking 1/2 hr to brush his teeth because a) he knew it bugged me, and b) he didn't want to go to bed, I'd have a fit. But now I find that magic spot on the wall, cross my arms over my chest, and wait. Oh, also, I don't look at him. It helps him to know he doesn't have an audience.</p><p>I just let my mind float somewhere. (Maybe it's called "disengaging." I don't know, LOL!)</p><p>Good luck! And don't worry about typing your thoughts. It helps to vent. And we all know how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 69412, member: 3419"] Hey, been there done that!!!! Hugs. There is a diff between loving and liking. I understand completely. And I agree with-others here that you have to take care of yourself. And also, that some behaviors must be overlooked. That was one of the hardest things for me to learn. One of the things I gave up was having my difficult child look nice every day. He usually picks out his own clothes (this, after we took away all his clothes, and issued them daily, like when you're in prison) and he actually knows how to color coordinate. However, he still does weird things like wear swim trunks in the winter, instead of long pants, and no socks. He comes back in the house 20 min. later complaining and I just point to the long pants and socks and walk away, LOL! It has done a lot for my peace of mind. Sometimes when it gets me down, that part about a life sentence, I put it out of my mind and stare at the wall. Really. It used to be that when he was stalling, taking 1/2 hr to brush his teeth because a) he knew it bugged me, and b) he didn't want to go to bed, I'd have a fit. But now I find that magic spot on the wall, cross my arms over my chest, and wait. Oh, also, I don't look at him. It helps him to know he doesn't have an audience. I just let my mind float somewhere. (Maybe it's called "disengaging." I don't know, LOL!) Good luck! And don't worry about typing your thoughts. It helps to vent. And we all know how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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