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<blockquote data-quote="1 Day At a Time" data-source="post: 69524" data-attributes="member: 3704"><p>Bugsy,</p><p></p><p>We're all in there with you! I don't think that any of us willingly signed on for this. I often think to myself that God knew what he/she was doing because if difficult child had been #1, there would not have been a #2!</p><p></p><p>I think it is really important to take care of yourself first and foremost. I try to find islands of peace and sanity for myself whenever/wherever I can. Remember, first and foremost, this is not your fault. We're all born as we are and those around us respond as they will. Make it easier on yourself so that it can be easier on everyone else.</p><p></p><p>It has really helped me to throw away all of the "shoulds" that were in my mind. They are gone now, so much so that I dare to say my entire reality has shifted. We don't go a lot of the places where we used to go, and we don't do a lot of the things we used to do. They just don't work anymore, and it's easier to do the things that do work. And, we've learned to love the things that we can do. </p><p></p><p>By the same token, I don't have the same expectations, hopes and dreams for difficult child as I had for easy child. I'm working on having the ones that are right for both him and me. That alone has been incredibly liberating!</p><p></p><p>Most of all, be kind to yourself !</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1 Day At a Time, post: 69524, member: 3704"] Bugsy, We're all in there with you! I don't think that any of us willingly signed on for this. I often think to myself that God knew what he/she was doing because if difficult child had been #1, there would not have been a #2! I think it is really important to take care of yourself first and foremost. I try to find islands of peace and sanity for myself whenever/wherever I can. Remember, first and foremost, this is not your fault. We're all born as we are and those around us respond as they will. Make it easier on yourself so that it can be easier on everyone else. It has really helped me to throw away all of the "shoulds" that were in my mind. They are gone now, so much so that I dare to say my entire reality has shifted. We don't go a lot of the places where we used to go, and we don't do a lot of the things we used to do. They just don't work anymore, and it's easier to do the things that do work. And, we've learned to love the things that we can do. By the same token, I don't have the same expectations, hopes and dreams for difficult child as I had for easy child. I'm working on having the ones that are right for both him and me. That alone has been incredibly liberating! Most of all, be kind to yourself ! [/QUOTE]
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