Chaosuncontained
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Carson (my ADHD wonder boy) is 9. Was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 4. Dad and I have joint custody of him and his two youngest siblings (our oldest is on her own and having her own awful problems). I have them part of the week, he has them the other part).
Last year, right before school started Ex called and asked me if Carson could come live with me full time. Ex and his new wife were have morfe problems with Carson than they could handle. Carson had a BAD year in second grade. He spent A LOT of time in the "On Campus Suspension" classroom. So we tranferred him to my local school (Ex and I live 20 miles from each other). This school is very small. There were three 3rd grade classes last year. The school staff is very nice and easy (for the most part) to get along with--and they really try to help Carson, but they don't have a lot of experience with children this...hard. Last year he had to see the Principal at least once per week and had On Campus Supsension several (more than 4) times. He refused to do his work toward the end of school. He ran out of the building and hid from the school. He choked a boy, bit a boy on the nose, popped a girl in the mouth and tried to hit his teacher. He HATES the Principal, loved his teacher and really like his peers--but by the end of the year he had ostrasized himself from most of them.
Today, my Ex and I have a meeting with the Principal, school counselor and his four teachers (yep, he has 4 this year). I'm nervous. This year they will be even harder on him. Expect more from him. He has changed medications in the last few days but all will take a bit (2-3 weeks) to get in his system so we can see results. He hates cursive hadwriting, Math and Science. He says it's too hard. He loves to read. LOVES it. He doesn't lile PE (he isnt a physical person). He's very small for his age and up until the last six weeks of school last year (when he was on Ablify) he was SKINNY. Now he weighs 60 pounds.
This year is so important. I'm afraid he will fall so far behind (already he is showing a lot of defiance regarding doing his school work in class) that he will never catch up. I always worry that the school (I know at least one teacher that seems to feel this way) that this is all my fault. That I should have whipped him more or that I don't dicipline him at all. That I am a bad parent. And take it out on him.
I'm afraid they will tire of trying to be accomodating (he is on section 504 has been since 2nd grade).
I dunno, I know I'm rambling here now... But I really hate the idea of going before 6 people who CAN help me make school an enjoyable learning experience for Carson. I feel like I am on trial or something.
Last year, right before school started Ex called and asked me if Carson could come live with me full time. Ex and his new wife were have morfe problems with Carson than they could handle. Carson had a BAD year in second grade. He spent A LOT of time in the "On Campus Suspension" classroom. So we tranferred him to my local school (Ex and I live 20 miles from each other). This school is very small. There were three 3rd grade classes last year. The school staff is very nice and easy (for the most part) to get along with--and they really try to help Carson, but they don't have a lot of experience with children this...hard. Last year he had to see the Principal at least once per week and had On Campus Supsension several (more than 4) times. He refused to do his work toward the end of school. He ran out of the building and hid from the school. He choked a boy, bit a boy on the nose, popped a girl in the mouth and tried to hit his teacher. He HATES the Principal, loved his teacher and really like his peers--but by the end of the year he had ostrasized himself from most of them.
Today, my Ex and I have a meeting with the Principal, school counselor and his four teachers (yep, he has 4 this year). I'm nervous. This year they will be even harder on him. Expect more from him. He has changed medications in the last few days but all will take a bit (2-3 weeks) to get in his system so we can see results. He hates cursive hadwriting, Math and Science. He says it's too hard. He loves to read. LOVES it. He doesn't lile PE (he isnt a physical person). He's very small for his age and up until the last six weeks of school last year (when he was on Ablify) he was SKINNY. Now he weighs 60 pounds.
This year is so important. I'm afraid he will fall so far behind (already he is showing a lot of defiance regarding doing his school work in class) that he will never catch up. I always worry that the school (I know at least one teacher that seems to feel this way) that this is all my fault. That I should have whipped him more or that I don't dicipline him at all. That I am a bad parent. And take it out on him.
I'm afraid they will tire of trying to be accomodating (he is on section 504 has been since 2nd grade).
I dunno, I know I'm rambling here now... But I really hate the idea of going before 6 people who CAN help me make school an enjoyable learning experience for Carson. I feel like I am on trial or something.