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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 631088" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You did it, Lil. You are one step closer to feeling free. It doesn't feel that way now. Maybe you feel badly, but he had a ball and chain around your wallet just a few days ago and you did it. I think cutting off the money train is the most important thing we do for our adult children who plain don't want to do life the way others do and who get into trouble. It's not easy to say "no" either, but you did it. Now he has a real reason to want to get a job. As long as you give in to him, he has no motivation to work and will keep dawdling. He may keep dawdling, but not on your dime anymore. Hang out? That's what pre-teenagers do when they go to the mall and giggle at the boys and girls. Adults go to work and have responsibilities and down time on their own paycheck.</p><p></p><p>When my daughter was told to leave home, she had no car at all. She had to walk to get a job and to and from work. She managed to do it. I really think forcing her to do things and not making her life easy helped her decide to quit the drug scene. I still believe that making it hard to live a lousy, going-nowhere life is far more apt to motivate a wayward adult to doing something about his crummy life than when we give in and allow them to hang out with their other loser frineds who take drugs, don't work, and party. My daughter learned some tough lessons abourt life after she left the house. She really did have no money, no car and her brother's basement and he was one step from tossing her out if she so much as lit up a cigarette. She knew he meant it too. He didn't waffle like us. So she had to straighten out or have no fun at all. </p><p></p><p>Today you are a shining star. At least to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 631088, member: 1550"] You did it, Lil. You are one step closer to feeling free. It doesn't feel that way now. Maybe you feel badly, but he had a ball and chain around your wallet just a few days ago and you did it. I think cutting off the money train is the most important thing we do for our adult children who plain don't want to do life the way others do and who get into trouble. It's not easy to say "no" either, but you did it. Now he has a real reason to want to get a job. As long as you give in to him, he has no motivation to work and will keep dawdling. He may keep dawdling, but not on your dime anymore. Hang out? That's what pre-teenagers do when they go to the mall and giggle at the boys and girls. Adults go to work and have responsibilities and down time on their own paycheck. When my daughter was told to leave home, she had no car at all. She had to walk to get a job and to and from work. She managed to do it. I really think forcing her to do things and not making her life easy helped her decide to quit the drug scene. I still believe that making it hard to live a lousy, going-nowhere life is far more apt to motivate a wayward adult to doing something about his crummy life than when we give in and allow them to hang out with their other loser frineds who take drugs, don't work, and party. My daughter learned some tough lessons abourt life after she left the house. She really did have no money, no car and her brother's basement and he was one step from tossing her out if she so much as lit up a cigarette. She knew he meant it too. He didn't waffle like us. So she had to straighten out or have no fun at all. Today you are a shining star. At least to me. [/QUOTE]
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