Ok, so I have been dating J for almost 2 years. He has been really great especially with all that has gone on with difficult child. J has been there through thick and thin. We had even talked about moving in together, but know it's not the right time, that the kids are not ready for it. He is ok with that. He is always understanding when I need to do something with the kids and can't go out. I could go on an on about how he has been there for us. Ok, so here comes where I have the heavy heart, last weekend, I pulled a MAJOR difficult child act. I had gone to visit difficult child at noon and got home about 2:30pm. J had called when I was on the way home and had wanted me to come over (he would have gone to visit difficult child with me, but he had a meeting earlier). I said I would come over but I needed to work on my math work (I am taking 2 college classes and this is Elementary and Intermediate Algebra - not my strong suit) because I wanted to be able to take my quiz on Sunday (my math class is online). Anyway, this part of the chapter is really hard for me and I am really struggling. I took a little nap before starting on my work. J called again and I said I was still working on it, that I was having a hard time. This went on for several more hours. Anyway, before I knew it, it was after 7pm. I talked to J on the phone, he was extremely upset with me because I had left him hanging all afternoon. He said if you didn't want to come over then you should have just said something. I DID WANT to go over, I just got really absorbed in trying to get this math down. J said well if you want to call me later and hung up. I called him before bed like always and he didn't answer the phone. Sunday morning, I called J again and no answer. We have a routine with phone calls. We usually talk 4-5 times a day at least. We were supposed to go to a brunch around noon. I still didn't hear from him. I called later, I finally got an answer later in the day. He was very distant and said "oh I figured you were busy" then he said talk to you later. Monday morning rolled around and I called again, he answered and said that he was on the way out the door for a meeting. I called Monday evening and he answered and asked if I noticed that he was being distant. I said yes I did, and I was sorry about Saturday. He said again about not wanting to come over. I told him that I had every intention of going over, but I had just got wrapped up in the math, that I was really struggling with it. He said there must have been something else going on in my mind, I said there wasn't. I am tired, but I am always tired. (I did start Zoloft almost 2 weeks ago and my mind isn't quite as sharp as it could be, but that's beside the point.) We went on and on with him pressing me on why I left him hanging. He wasn't accepting my reason. He was like well I guess that is the only reason I am going to get, I don't like it, but I guess that is what I am going to get. We will talk more about this later, maybe, maybe not and then said he had to go. Now, J is an accountant, so I know he looks at things as black and white, very cut and dry. I know I hurt his feelings. I know I was wrong. I have apologized. I know there is no valid excuse for leaving him hanging. I can't go back and change it. I talked with my family counselor last night about it and she told me to give him a little space. That his feelings are hurt and he will need some time. She said to send him a card, I sent him an email this morning. He replied said he would answer a lot more later, but he had a big IRS case he was working on today. He said "I know you are sorry. Enough with the sorry." I love this man so much. Both easy child and difficult child have accepted him. As a matter of fact, difficult child discussed J in our session on Monday saying how he knows that J would never replace his father (who died) but that J could be a father figure and be a good influence on him. I miss him and I am so worried that he won't get passed this. Even though we have been together 2 years at the end of Sept. this is the first time, we have had ANY problems. Both easy child and my counselor have said that he has invested a lot of time in this relationship and just give him some time. My heart is sooooooo heavy. I just want to cry and kick myself in the rear.