So I stay home and take care of the kids. I cook I clean, I wash his underwear, make the bed, help difficult child and easy child with homework. If it happens at this house it's because I did it. Heck all last summer I mowed also. He trashes the yard, I pick it up. He doesn't care how nasty anything gets, he doesn't care what people think. I do. So I am stuck doing everything. Then he whines because he has gained weight, but doesn't want to do any sort of work out with me. Won't go for walks, nada. Then, if I may get personal, I have to be on top for sex because he bumbles around. He acts as though he has no idea how to please me. Everything used to be great. Now I am wondering what I am doing and if it was just my raging libido that made it great.... I am thinking that maybe I don't like sex with him because he makes me so mad all the time. He doesn't do sweet things for me, he falls asleep in his chair right after supper. I always hear how they do nothing at work, but he is asleep in the recliner by 7:30. I am lonely, and I am tired. I don't even try to look good for him anymore, and then I get guilt from it from him. He doesn't plan dates for us and he goes and does stuff for everyone else on his days off..... He ignores me when I cry, won't wake up to watch the kids when I take a shower and he won't uphold the rules I put down. Why do I bother?