I have a spark of hope.

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by AnnieO, Nov 4, 2013.

  1. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Belle called husband yesterday.

    She got my letter - the one that simply said I loved her, I missed her, I'd tried to send pictures but they weren't allowed, and we'd like to visit; could she put in for one of the early afternoon Saturday slots? That I wasn't sure Pat would come, and I wasn't sure if they'd allow Rose, but husband and I would definitely visit.

    So when she called, because she does not have minutes on her account ($1+ per minute is not reasonable when we have paper in my opinion), she jammed all that in to the "who's calling" portion. "Dad-this-is-Belle-got-the-letter-I-will-set-up-Saturday-I-love-you-all!"

    So we will be visiting her Saturday. I am hoping this is a major corner turned.
  2. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I am so happy I am beaming :hapydancsmil:
  3. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Crossing my fingers for you, Annie. I hope she can see how good she has it and how lucky she is to be so loved! :)
  4. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Well-Known Member

    Oh fingers crossed....this was really good to read!!!!
  5. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Oh I have my fingers crossed. Maybe maybe she is finally getting it. I hope your visit goes well.
  6. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Me too. I hope your Saturday visit goes REALLY well!

  7. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    Oh I'm hoping right along with you guys.
  8. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    I'm pretzeling like crazy... She sets up visits every weekend for the 7:30 slot, but we found out from her cell mate's mother that biogma visits then. Which is fine, except... Biogma and husband in the same small room... Ahhh, bad idea. Which is why we asked for the midday visit. (If biogma is there at the same time, she will likely start screaming at husband and end up arrested... So we are trying to avoid that.)

    The way this jail is set up - or was 17 years ago - is you go through a metal detector and sit on chairs, the inmates are brought in and then you sit at a little carrel with thick glass between you and the inmate. You talk on phone handsets. This may have changed... But this is what it was like in 1996. (I dated a guy who had a DUI and was in this facility... He never did completely clean up and is in the ADF down the road now.)
  9. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    I hope that you all have a great visit!
  10. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Good luck! I hope you husband and Belle get to have a nice visit.
  11. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Well-Known Member

    *That is exactly how it was when we visited difficult child - through glass on a phone...hope I never have to do that again...
  12. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    I have a spark of hope along with you. It's always a good feeling when they reach out a bit. I hope it goes well
  13. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    This is what it was like when my difficult child was in jail also.... and I agree I hope we are not in that situation again.... although I will take visiting him in jail over worrying where he is on the street.

  14. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Crossing all cross able parts
  15. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip


    She set up for the 7:30 slot.

    Either husband will go alone... Risking biogma's antics... Or we will go ahead & go. I just don't want to expose Rose to that kind of drama.

    I don't know if Belle misunderstood, or if she is playing a game, or what. I'm disappointed. I really wanted to see her - but I don't think it's gonna happen this weekend.
  16. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

  17. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Thanks to biogma, husband was unable to see her... but she called a bit ago and said she'd try again and was sorry about gma...
  18. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Darn...sorry about that.

    About the visiting set up.... the ways we have down here are either like you describe with the glass and phone handsets or they go all video and you are in one room and the inmate is somewhere else and you see each other in a computer screen. I hate that way.
  19. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Hmm, OK... She called yesterday and has set up NEXT Saturday at 1 PM... :bigsmile:
  20. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Awesome! Look forward to the update!