I am new also to this site. I have custody of my 2 grandsons ages 15 and 16, I am their Grandmother by r marriage to their maternal grandfather(my late husband ) I have been part of their lives sense birth and regained custody from their maternal grandmother 3 years ago when she became ill. and in 2010 my husand passed away of cancer he was about the only male figure they had. The 15yr old shows no signs of problems from things that they endured early on, He has choosen to not be a victim and not be like his parents.. His brother has been diagnosed with PTS, ADHD, ODD and a few more things, After this child moved in everything changed his actions with me that's ODD they tell me.
He's been in 4 mental hospital. one 8 month stay at a behavioral treatment place. and still he does the same bully, abusing controlling actions but now at home behind closed doors. I don't know what else to do , If I say one thing to him he doesn't like, he goes off just about every night. He curses me, breaks things , knocks things off the counter just to see what I WILL DO. I have NEVER HAD ANYONE talk to me the way he does.
Honestly I want to knock the crap out him, then he throws that out their that im a abuser and I don't love him and I just throw him in hospitals , when I tell the police he lies to them and I have no proof the one time he did hit me, his brother worries that he will hurt me and follow thru on his threats , he will lock my door when I go to bed. this is no way to live and I don't know how to handle him .. help please advise
He's been in 4 mental hospital. one 8 month stay at a behavioral treatment place. and still he does the same bully, abusing controlling actions but now at home behind closed doors. I don't know what else to do , If I say one thing to him he doesn't like, he goes off just about every night. He curses me, breaks things , knocks things off the counter just to see what I WILL DO. I have NEVER HAD ANYONE talk to me the way he does.
Honestly I want to knock the crap out him, then he throws that out their that im a abuser and I don't love him and I just throw him in hospitals , when I tell the police he lies to them and I have no proof the one time he did hit me, his brother worries that he will hurt me and follow thru on his threats , he will lock my door when I go to bed. this is no way to live and I don't know how to handle him .. help please advise