OK, so yesterday at the IEP meeting (summary under sp. ed) changes were made to difficult child's schedule and his going out to the bus (he is going out from an end door instead of the middle of the building). He was allowed to go back to lunch starting yesterday and if he can't go thru the line appropriately, then he can tell them what he wants and they will go thru the line for him. We said, well ok, now when he gets all these changes he is likely to have a bad time of it. I said, so is he going to get more punishments when he flips out over all of this, and then when he gets the punishment, and he has more problems, will he get even more punishments? Everyone said, oh no, we understand. So I get a call at the end of the day that he was super disruptive for the last two hours (I know it was the bus issue, that would be his biggest trigger for sure) and then he ran out of the building early, the bus wasn't there, he was walking thru the bushes, the principal told him to get out and difficult child sassed him. So at night, I told difficult child that for now, if the bus is too hard at the end of school, I will have to take him home. Once his medications settle in we can see if he can try again. Since it was a hard day that was his warning. I typed it out, he read it and we discussed the whole thing. I practiced with him going to the principal (the guy who doesn't come to any meetings but hands down his rules to sp. ed. admin in the school) and apologizing. He had a dr. appointment this morning. He was talking about how happy he was to be back eating with his friends. He asks for an a la cart item and I say if he does great at dr. he can. So he earns that. We arrive at school, teacher says I have to talk to you....she says admin decided since he acted out after being told of hte change he can't go to lunch today. I FLIP....She says she is going to call mr. sp. ed. admin. and he comes. I explain how the day went down. I say I dont think it is right that admin keeps unilaterally changing what is discussed in the iep and planning meetings. He says they are also going to take him out of he room every time he has an issue (behavior team has the class clear out but that was their call). I said, look maybe taht IS a good idea, but again, we need to meet with the whole team to decide, not just have admin decide to change the plan. He finally agrees...ok, So, as we are talking I said, at the meeting everyone said the behavior plan is working so it really concerns me that things get changed like this. He said, well yes, I heard them say that. But on FRI we met as a staff and everyone said it WASNT working. Excuse me??? who was at the meeting, WHAT meeting??? So, I said, you know I always cooperate with changing the plan if it doesn' work. I am fighting for this plan because everyone keeps saying (every week!) that the plan IS working. So, how can we do this if people are lying???? ARE just a few people thinking it doesn't work. I am beside myself. I also told this guy that I can't believe I was the only one who stood up for NOT grabbing difficult child (the psychologist from school said that works for him) to get him to go where he wants... He admitted that was NOT good and they actually had just been to superintendents meeting for when to and when not to touch students in teh district today. He admitted that they talked about what he said during our meeting. AND????? I just want to make sure this does not become his method for dealing with difficult child. So what now? I think I am going to call sp. ed coordinator and ask her what the hell is up? I am going to call support team person and ask her if she was at this FRI meeting....or was this just mainstream teacher fussing about the plan. And, I need to know how they are going to respond to the fact that their data shows when the trained behavior aide left all the problems came back. I am just sick, legal aide hasn't called yet....Pacer hasn't called or written email back. Frustrated.