DDD
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We have now celebrated our tenth anniversary of alcoholism with easy child/difficult child. Yes he turned 23 yeaterday and was originally diagnosis'd at 13. He no longer uses drugs. Obviously we
are thankful about that but we are getting OLD and his future with-o self discipline and/or family support (with some degree of detachment) is really grim. The Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) complicates the whole issue.
He voluntarily completed an application for a local residential rehab in December. They called and left a message for him. He has not returned the call.
Truthfully I have come to the conclusion that a local program will not help him no matter how good it is (and I only know that it is ok). Why? Because in treatment you have to be honest about your past and current life. We are in a small community and he knows almost every addict and former inmate in the area. There is no way he is going to open his heart and share when these people are not strangers. He honestly has a good heart
but only once (at 15) did he share with a counselor his kind nature and his past mistakes.
So...I decided to check out Intervention. They fly people off to facilities where they have exposure to strangers and an opportunity to create a new lifestyle. He would croak if I did it. After reading the A&E site, though, I am more than hesitant. Evidently a number of families feel that they were "Hollywood postured" for the sake of ratings and resent the exposure. I'd give up my pride (or is it false pride) to help him save himself but I don't think I could give up my anonymity for the sake of ratings. Bummer Vent. DDD
are thankful about that but we are getting OLD and his future with-o self discipline and/or family support (with some degree of detachment) is really grim. The Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) complicates the whole issue.
He voluntarily completed an application for a local residential rehab in December. They called and left a message for him. He has not returned the call.
Truthfully I have come to the conclusion that a local program will not help him no matter how good it is (and I only know that it is ok). Why? Because in treatment you have to be honest about your past and current life. We are in a small community and he knows almost every addict and former inmate in the area. There is no way he is going to open his heart and share when these people are not strangers. He honestly has a good heart
but only once (at 15) did he share with a counselor his kind nature and his past mistakes.
So...I decided to check out Intervention. They fly people off to facilities where they have exposure to strangers and an opportunity to create a new lifestyle. He would croak if I did it. After reading the A&E site, though, I am more than hesitant. Evidently a number of families feel that they were "Hollywood postured" for the sake of ratings and resent the exposure. I'd give up my pride (or is it false pride) to help him save himself but I don't think I could give up my anonymity for the sake of ratings. Bummer Vent. DDD