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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 678013" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi soooo tired, and I'm so sorry. It is truly the most exhausting thing in the world to try to push a train up a mountain. I know because I tried to do it with Difficult Child for years and years. It's exhausting...and it doesn't work.</p><p></p><p>We can't live another person's life for them, as much as we want to. And they have to find ways to solve their problems. If we solve their problems for them, they have no skin in the game. They aren't invested in the outcome, and the next time they have a problem, they look to us to again solve it.</p><p></p><p>Nothing changes if nothing changes.</p><p></p><p>She's 39 years old. She knows. </p><p></p><p>Can you step way way way back? Just let her live her life, as hard as that is to watch. When it's too hard to watch, set boundaries that give you the time and space you need not to have to watch it all.</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs today. Please keep posting. We so understand because we've been right there with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 678013, member: 17542"] Hi soooo tired, and I'm so sorry. It is truly the most exhausting thing in the world to try to push a train up a mountain. I know because I tried to do it with Difficult Child for years and years. It's exhausting...and it doesn't work. We can't live another person's life for them, as much as we want to. And they have to find ways to solve their problems. If we solve their problems for them, they have no skin in the game. They aren't invested in the outcome, and the next time they have a problem, they look to us to again solve it. Nothing changes if nothing changes. She's 39 years old. She knows. Can you step way way way back? Just let her live her life, as hard as that is to watch. When it's too hard to watch, set boundaries that give you the time and space you need not to have to watch it all. Warm hugs today. Please keep posting. We so understand because we've been right there with you. [/QUOTE]
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