It's taking so long for this court hearing on Sep 10. Two more weeks. I can't stay in this house if difficult child comes home, if he only gets probation or some kind of home detention. But the logistics of selling this house and getting court orders for husband to pay his share of the debts is overwhelming. I need more time to ease out, but if difficult child is let off, I won't have it. I hope he gets 18 months, but I doubt he will. Heck in Florida if one kid kills another kid, he only gets 3 years plus probation. difficult child took three weapons to school between ages 9 and 11 and was found at age 12 with 5 rx pills, no prescription in his pocket. What's that worth? At best 4-6 months. If I can only get until March, that will help a lot. If only I can get a transfer. If only I get get out of this $454 a month car lease. If only this house will sell and we aren't left with too much debt. Yesterday husband had to take difficult child for his competency hearing. We were arguing about the car lease (in my name, but leased for him and a car which he drives 100% of the time, but his hours were cut back to 32 and he won't put it on his credit card or get a second job so I'm stuck with it...I'm going to turn it in to leasetraders and maybe get out of the lease, maybe, maybe or just eat it, but whatever...), so husband refused to tell me what happened. He did drop a couple clues. It was 'rough' and it was 'hard to hear that about your own kid', but he didn't want to tell me because he 'doesn't feel close' to me now. Well, I can guess. It goes one of two ways always: they think difficult child is a victim-saint who's misunderstood and mistreated and yell at husband for being a bad father and not doing right for his kid; or they think difficult child is exhbiting antisocial behavior at a very young age and tell husband that this kid is big trouble. I'm guessing because of the comment 'it's hard to hear about your kid', it's the second one. This was a court appointed psychiatric and they've probably seen everything and aren't easily fooled. On the other hand, I've been shocked by how often people who should know better get stinked in by difficult child's cuteness and manners. Anyway, just a bundle of anxiety wondering how I'm going to get through the next 14 days. I have a list of things to do to make the transition easier if I have to do it abruptly, but it would be so much easier if I could count on having some more time to prepare. I so wish I had a chrystal ball.